I've been a lurker here for quite a while, and would appreciate some advice on what would appear to be a mundane subject.
I just got divorced (no kids); I'm in my mid-30s; fairly well-built and I take care of myself. Unfortunately I work in the IT field, which means I don't see many women around at work.
Recently I was forced to relocate to the silicon valley and I'm finding it really hard (no pun intended) to find a decent woman to just go out with. I mainly attracted to smart, intelligent women only; the Paris Hiltons of this world don't do it for me.
So I'm trying this online dating thing (match.com, nerve.com, yahoo personals). My ad is up on Nerve, and I have contacted about a dozen women who seemed to be active. I sent each of them a polite message describing why I found their profile interesting, etc.
Out of the 12, not a single one responded. Not even a "sorry, not interested".
Now I'm new to this online dating thing, and I'm hoping folks here can help me out here.
Should I send them a note again? Should I keep it short and to the point, or should I blabber on? Are there any tricks to writing successful initial contact messages?
The main problem is that even though I'm well-built (many women in the past have commented about my broad shoulders, strong arms, etc.), I'm a big nerd upstairs. I am a bit shy too, which means I can't usually approach women in the grocery store or library.
So here I am, at the mercy of a group of strangers, pan-handling for some words of wisdom.
