I'm so glad you're here to defend that point Ustwo, because I'd feel outnumbered if it weren't for your well-reasoned posts. I don't think there SHOULD be taboo subjects, weight included.
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Originally Posted by astrahl
Weight, as an issue, isn't the same for men as it is for women. It would be like her commenting on his penis size or something. Women, on average, are VERY sensitive about their weight.
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You're probably right. The first time my SO made a comment about my penis size (in a JOKING manner) I got upset. I was hurt -- how dare she make fun of something that I couldn't change. Hell, it hurt a lot. "Was it really a joke?" Kept running through my mind. I told her she shouldn't ever say things like that, and huffed off. And then I realized the ignorance of my ways. If I made her afraid or unwilling to point out my flaws, what kind of person could I be? Someone too afraid of their own flaws to have them pointed out? A strong person isn't effected by this, and a strong person decides whether the comment is worth using to their advantage. Now, penis size might be a bad example because of it's rather unchanging nature, but weight CAN BE LOST. If I got fat.. I would want my SO to tell me; it, like Ustwo so genuinely explained, helps. It would give me the motivation I needed to get to the damn gym. Likewise.. she pointed out that I tended to be a bit overbearing in conversations, and insist on my correctness in the losing side of an argument. I've since become a lot more amiable to "let's agree to disagree" and cast off the horrible argumentation strategy that I learned from my father. If she'd not pointed it out, I could still be the stubborn person I was months ago. If I say it once I'll say it a hundred times: HONESTY and COMMUNICATION. Why would you purposely strike fear into the heart of your SO if they dared to express honest communication about their preferences or their feelings towards you? Is that really a relationship, or is that someone there to pad your ego?