genuinegirly

I had the same problem. Frustrated the men I was with considerably (even think I lost a boyfriend over it). It is an issue, when guys judge their performance on how much you enjoy it. I mean, it's a noble concept for them to want to please you, but when it doesn't make a difference to the gal, it's just frustrating for all involved.

What it took for me was a guy that I was entirely (and unexpectedly) comfortable with. The feelings that I had for him caught me off guard, and perhaps that is what added enough passion to make it work.

My advice - be patient. Keep trying. It will happen when you couldn't have expected it.

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