Ok, Mom says that she is having a hard time letting go of both the ring and the son... and that she is
not having second thoughts about me. She is just very emotionally attached to the ring and doesn't want to give it away only to later feel resentment seeing it on someone else's finger.
I told her it was her ring and her perogative and that all I was concerned about was maintaining the relationship. I also told her that the issues regarding how the two of them treated each other over the ring was between them and I was not going to get involved. Mr. L is completly willing to talk to his mom about everything, he just wanted to give both her and himself time and space to cool down.
So he is going to talk with her on Sunday and she and I are fine. Aside from that, he and I both think that we should not accept the ring unless she wants to give it to us as a symbol of love and acceptance with no strings attached and ONLY if there will be absolutely no resentment harboured. I'm not sure how I will be able to believe that those conditions have been met, but as
pigglet said, we're just going to have to play it by ear.
Thanks for the advice, guys, you've been great.
