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Originally Posted by AVoiceOfReason
IDon't let that stop you; you do NOT have to have her agreement in order to get a decree entered--it may take a little longer and cost a little more, but in the long run, you're trying to protect your child, no?
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i am not worried about the child. he is in good hands with either one of us. she is a far better mother than she is partner. i do not want to keep him from her at all. i do believe in an even split 50 - 50 time. and she has agreed in principle to this. in actual practice, he will spend 4 or 5 nights a week with me. i'm as happy as i can be with that. those 2 or 3 nights without suck, but at least i have something.
as selfish as it may sound, what i'm trying to protect are my present and future assets. she says she doesn't want child support. i want THAT in writing, so that 5 or 10 years down the line, i don't become her winning lotto ticket.
i will never refuse to pay for anything for my son - while he is in my custody. but i'll be damned if i'm going to give her a cent. she left. she should support herself. i can take care of the child.
am i being selfish or close minded here? if there are any mothers who've left their partners out there, i'd love to hear your side of the story. i am struggling to understand my ex's decisions.