Originally Posted by Squishor

I believe that you absolutely have to have interests and activities outside your relationship if you want it to be healthy and long-lasting. Try talking to her in a way that sincerely conveys your feelings for her and see if that helps her insecurities. Maybe there is something else you can do to demonstrate your feelings that will convince her. It could be the hormonal birth control too - wacky hormones can cause women to feel insecure, since they mess with your emotions. Don't marry her until you get this worked out.

One thing I noticed, though, is that you said, "...I have...the women I love...." You did mean the woman, as in her, right? Otherwise if you're out there loving more than one woman that could be the root of the problem right there.