Originally Posted by ratbastid

The ability to take constructive criticism (or coaching or correction or call it what you will) is actually something you can train yourself in.

I participate in a leadership training program. I spent a year in training to lead that program, and then led it for a while. When I was in training I taught myself to "turn on a dime". A lot of my training was "on the court"--the person training me would actually put me at the front of the course room to lead a section, and coach me out loud in public while I did it. I had to deal with looking like I didn't know what I was doing, being told I was doing it wrong in public (in front of the people I'm supposed to be training!), etc, etc.

Eventually I understood that I could provide something for my students by actually DEMONSTRATING taking correction and coaching right there in the moment, because that's one of the things they're being trained in too. Doesn't mean my blood didn't run hot for a half a second, but I got to where I could stop myself, hear what I was being told, and implement it immediately.

Of course, that was in a context where I trusted the person giving me the input 110%. I don't necessarily have that same level of trust for everybody.