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Originally Posted by ophelia783
Majik_6 and I got engaged 3 months ago, and ever since then, all I ever hear is, "So when's the big day?" When people find out it's 3 years from now, they look absolutly shocked, and don't understand why.
Keep in mind, we're both 21, students, and we've been together a relatively short time (almost 5 months). Also, we're a long-distance couple (he's from West Virginia, I live in Montreal), and we want to live together for a couple of years and get our finances in order before we tie the knot.
How many of you have/had long engagements? What were the reasons behind your decision? How did those around you react?
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Ophelia,
you're doing the right thing . . . you're both getting your educations first and then going to focus on your marriage . . . but you've taken it up to a great level of committment, i seen it work for others very well.
I had a long engagement . . . 2 and 1/2 years . . . we got engaged at a young age, and wanted to get our educations and jobs security squared away before making the committtment to each other. Getting those other things finished first has given us the opportunity when we got married to get focus on each other and our marriage instead of trying to do it all at once. We've been married for three wonderful years now and i'm glad we choose the long engagement route.
people will react any way they want to. don't let it affect you, just focus on the love you have and look foward to the future, don't let people ruin this happy time for you . . .
also: Congratulations!!!!!
Sweetpea