maleficent

With some people I can come right out and say exactly what is on my mind, and I don't have to sugar coat it at all... If someone is acting like a self-destructive dumbass, I will tell them. The reason why I would tell them, is because I care. (tough love shoudl be my middle name) If I didn't care, I would try a different approach, and then if that got nowhere, I would just walk away. (though I might return later, with a different way, because I don't like quitting on people)

Tough love doesn't work for everyone... there has to be a prior relationship, and the person that you are tough loving has to know where they stand with you. They have to unequivocally know that you are doing this for them.. and not just beating them when they are down...That is a very tough line to cross.

Of late, with me, my confidence has taken a nosedive and my trust of the outside world has crashed and burned, because I don't know where I stand with some people, I'm not sure I could take being smacked around - -even if it is for my own good. I tend to smack myself harder than anyone around me ever could.

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