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I think it has more to do with these folks being so afraid of living life alone or opportunism rather than gender.
That being said, I believe men and women settle for different reasons. I don't think men settle in the conventional sense, I think, for the most part, they (men in general as there are exceptions, no doubt about it) keep one foot out the door in case something better comes along.
My father loved my mother but screwed around when things got rough. The second woman he lived with he loved until a woman at work turned his head, again when things got rough. He lives with a third woman right now, but calls my sister (she's the only one who listens to his shit) to cry about his problems and how he feels "stuck" in this relationship.
One of my former bosses traded his first wife, for a woman with a little bit of money because he wanted to start a business. Once he had a bit of money, he traded her in for a younger model with a son, because he wanted to be a family man.
So...women settle for men because they don't think anyone better will come along. Men tend to 'love the one they're with' until something better comes along.
As a man, I find the whole thing detestable. Settling, be it man or woman, for any reason is just silly and I'd never do it. Not because I have some far fetched notion of Ms. Perfect, but rather because I'm quite comfortable being alone and find the notion of using women as stepping stones distasteful.
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