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Old 04-30-2005, 04:24 AM   #17 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by FEIGN
She has never really been comfortable pleasuring herself. She says she doesn't need to since she has me. She told me she has done it in the past, before me, but not since ... But when it comes to talking about how something i'm doing feels to her or is she would like to try masterbating herself she clams up. I don't know what to do.

Thank you all for your help.
I think and others think that this might be one of the keys to help. How's this for a first step approach. Encourage her to at least let you indulge in mutual masturbation. She doesn't have to "O", the key is to allow you some room for enjoyment while the pressure is off. If she takes some of the responsibility for her pleasure into her own hands so to speak, and you are open with her about how hot you find it when she is masturbating while you watch/stroke yourself it might at least be another avenue of mutual enjoyment that could eventually give a result you both like. I don't know your home situation (are there others in the home that would disallow this) but if the mutual thing took place on the living room couch it would give her a little space. Possibly the bedroom means a different kind of intimacy and a place like the living room couch would allow a more casual and relaxed atmosphere where what could almost be a teenager juvenile tease game could be played by you two. You could even get a little demanding ... tell her you want to stand in front of her and get head while she strokes herself, and every now and then you stand back and take yourself in hand and talk sexy while telling her how hot it all is. Who knows what could come of her learning to relax while creating another kind of intimacy and sharing?

Sorry about the long ramble, but this is very important for both of you and anything that might help in the least bit is worth trying at least a few times. My 2 cents.
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