She's got a lot going on with her physically.. and it's got to be affecting her emotionally. I can tell you it's very very difficult to have an orgasm when you are wound up pretty tight, and if she's got all that going on... she's got to be pretty tight. You might think that an orgasm would relax a person, but if you can't relax to begin with -- you can't tet into a state where you can orgasm.
Next... Fibromyalgia - Not sure what the doctor is doing to treat this, but I know that meds don't alway work and it is painful. It can make sex painful or at least uncomfortable...
A conversation I had with a friend recently, who's a massage therapist, told me business was picking up recently because she had gotten in a slew of women clients, all who knew each other from the same doctor's office. They were all being treated for fibromyalgia wihtout a lot of relief. One of the women, had gone to my friend for a massage, and was asked about any troubles she was having.. and had mentioned the Fibromyalgia... After a few sessions, the woman wasn't cured... my friend isn't a miracle worker, but the woman was better able to deal with the condition and had told all her friends.
I'm getting to a point here somewhere... Don't take her off her meds just for an orgasm... however, talking with her doctor to explore alternate therapies I would strongly suggest. Massage therapy might be something to investigate, and absolutely could not hurt trying it out...
Ok - now the tough love part...
Chill Out... Imagine you are the woman, and the man that you love, and who you know loves you is spending 45 minutes trying to give you an orgasm and you just can't get there... (beleive it or not, it does happen) it's frustrating for you because you can't give your husband what he wants to give you, and it's frustrating for your husband because he can't give you what he thinks you want. If she's OK with it feeling good.... then that should be OK... She doesn't have to finish. It doesn't make you a super stud because you can give multiple orgasms...
How are you at reading her signals, does her body change when you know she's enjoying something, does her eye color change, there are non verbal clues to let you know you are doing something right...
OK -- tough love over..
Patience will get you thru this, and I commend you for all you've done so far... just let her know how you feel...
