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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq
studies show that even babies masturbate... i don't remember where i read that but i do recall it.
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Babies are known to rock back and forth and the squeezing of the thighs tightens around the vaginal area and causes a sensation which most doctors refer to as 'self stimulation' or masterbation. I just read this somewhere too, and the doctors say most babies grow out of it.
However I am living proof that they don't, they just learned to hide it very well. My mom told me I started rubbing on things in my crib when I ws 2 months old. She told me this after walking in on me when I was 13 and 'humping' a pile of pillows and blankets because I was bored. And I can remember doing it for years before that. It scared the living crap out of me and I sat in my room and cried for about 20 mins. She had opened my door, I seen her, she closed the door and went downstairs where she waited for me to come out. When I finally did, she looked at me so warmly and said 'Honey, why are you crying? I'm not upset, I'm just sorry I didn't knock." to which I replied "I thought I was going to get in trouble." My Mom was great, she told me "honey, what you were doing was not wrong. It's a private thing, and I know now that you need more privacy, as long as that's all you're doing. I will be sure to knock before coming in." And she went into how she has done the same thing when she was my age and that even tho the bible says what it says about the subject, it's a natural feeling and when I grow up I will understand what I like and there's nothing wrong with that.
These comments are a bit strong for an 8 year old, and my mother and I had already had a few 'sex' talks and stuff because I was molested at a young age. All of these things that I had experienced, knowing what made me feel good, and knowing what sex was at such a young age didn't make me lose my virginity, if anything it gave me the knowledge there are other things out there that feel just as good, and I can do it myself. Just try to talk to her about it, ask her if its something she only does alone. And because of my history, please don't think I'm being crazy, you could always ask her if anyone had ever done anything to prompt her learning these things? I am not suggesting this because I think that's the only way she learned it, only to give you a chance to open the door for her to talk about these things, just in case. Please don't read this and think for a second about it to long before asking her. That's the only reason my mom found out that someone had touched me, when I was 6 she just plainly asked, without making accusations or making me feel bad, she just asked plainly and I answered yes. I have always been able to takl to her since then because she never made me feel bad about it and we helped each other deal with everything else after that. If she says no, then you will know and can move on from there.
Not only does my 4 year old know what her private parts are, she knows she can call anything she wants her private parts, even her elbow. I have already talked to her about them so that she will know it's ok to talk about them should she ever need to. I know some people are going to think this an extreme, but I don't really care, I am not giving her the birds and the bees, just a comfort of knowledge and knowing that I am opening a door for these things to be talked about freely.
I hope this was somewhat helpful, and that you only take from it what you feel is appropriate for your situation, this is more about mine and I'mjust hoping it helps a little bit.