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Originally Posted by cowudders14
Sorry Spicy, but I disagree 100%.
Communication and open-ness in a relationship is everything! If you hadn't told her, you'd keep it bottled up and would just feel bad about it. It would eat away at you and you'd tell her much further down the line. You would then destroy the trust she had in you as she would wonder what else you hadn't told her. That's too personal an issue to keep from someone you are about to marry. Telling her shows her that you trust her enough to open those parts of yourself that are most private. Doing that takes a lot of courage - I've not fully done it to my wife after 1.5years of marriage, - it takes a hell of a lot of courage and effort to trust someone that much, but trust me, it's the best option by far.
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The way I see it, some people (be it men or women) just can't handle the whole truth. While a part of them may be grateful that you trust them enough to open up to them, they'll always use that knowledge as a weapon against you. Trust me... I've been there.
It's one thing if you've had an STD---or you currently have one---to let your partner know (because their health and safety is potentially at risk too), but not everything about your past should be revealed.
Some things are better left unsaid.