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Originally Posted by Spicy McHaggis
Honesty is one thing, but I don't think i would have told her about your past.. and especially that you have current urges!
Once you're married she will always wonder if you're up to something when you take out extra money and will always have this in the back of her mind.
This is an example where it's better off to just keep quiet.
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Sorry Spicy, but I disagree 100%.
Communication and open-ness in a relationship is everything! If you hadn't told her, you'd keep it bottled up and would just feel bad about it. It would eat away at you and you'd tell her much further down the line. You would then destroy the trust she had in you as she would wonder what else you hadn't told her. That's too personal an issue to keep from someone you are about to marry. Telling her shows her that you trust her enough to open those parts of yourself that are most private. Doing that takes a lot of courage - I've not fully done it to my wife after 1.5years of marriage, - it takes a hell of a lot of courage and effort to trust someone that much, but trust me, it's the best option by far.