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I have been through this as well. I used prostitutes during my "dry spell" in college. It was easy and convenient and didn't involve me putting myself out there in bars just to get shot down. I was working 16 hrs/day in a lab doing my Master's work which didn't leave a bunch of time for a relationship. Even before this, I was the king of the one or two night stand. My wife was a virgin, and it was a real struggle to get over the fact that she wasn't polished in bed and I thought I was. I was fantasizing about going outside the marriage. I would have done a 3-some with her if she had been into it. I had experienced that as well before college. She wasn't, so it became a moot point.
What I found out through time is that the sex that you can achieve with one partner is so much more exciting than you can with someone strange. Yes, you get that rush from being with someone new the first or second time. However, the quality isn't really there. By really spending time to communicate about your fantasies and desires, you can achieve a much more in-depth sexual connection that is tied to your emotional connection with her. It took us a very long time to achieve as she wasn't very experienced and getting her to trust me that way took a lot of talking to get her over her inhibitions. Through talking to her though I found out where I was lacking in bed as well and worked on that. It works both ways.
Focus on your emotional connection (which it appears you have), and if everything works out you will eventually realize that your desire for that rush can be channeled into sex with your partner. Even today, I still look at a pretty girl and imagine sex with her. It is just something ingrained, but I have control over the intensity of it now where I had a hard time controlling it early in my marriage. I never did stray, but the temptation was surely there.
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