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minimedgirl · 11-13-2004, 01:48 PM

maybe it's a trust thing. i had the same problem the other day, all this shit weighing me down and i was upset/depressed etc when i hung out with my guy friend that i adore. he wanted to know what was up, i wanted to tell him, but i was afraid he'd run in the opposite direction once he got a taste of "crrrraaaazy!" and that if i started talking, it would all just burst out and it would be overwhelming. and i didnt want to burden him. no one needs that. rationally i know he'd be supportive, but emotionally i just didn't want to be a burden on him or anyone.
all i can say is give it time, and KEEP PROBING and reassuring her that nothing she could say would make you run away i guess. the worst that can happen i guess is she'll get pissed off and blow up and you, and then it'll all come out.
or if you are totally convinced she is depressed, it will take time, shitloads of it. cause she will really not want to "burden" you with stuff. sometimes, when i was going through that, i would call up a friend and tell them to "just talk to me, talk about anything' and i would listen to them ramble on about some computer program or school or something. and it may have been a distraction from my stuff, but they KNEW that eventually i might say something, and even if it took a couple hours, eventuallly i would feel comfortable enough to trust them a little bit with what was going on. and THAT'S when you would encourage her i guess to talk to a counselor, and offer to go with her to drop her off etc or pick her up...
i wish i could help a bit more. depression is not a fun thing. ...just be there for her, but rememeber not too get too worked up over things, stability is always nice, but in the end she has to admit to her self that there is a problem and get help. but extending a hand or a 20-ft extension ladder out to her is nice too.

11-13-2004, 01:48 PM	#7 (permalink)
minimedgirl Upright	maybe it's a trust thing. i had the same problem the other day, all this shit weighing me down and i was upset/depressed etc when i hung out with my guy friend that i adore. he wanted to know what was up, i wanted to tell him, but i was afraid he'd run in the opposite direction once he got a taste of "crrrraaaazy!" and that if i started talking, it would all just burst out and it would be overwhelming. and i didnt want to burden him. no one needs that. rationally i know he'd be supportive, but emotionally i just didn't want to be a burden on him or anyone. all i can say is give it time, and KEEP PROBING and reassuring her that nothing she could say would make you run away i guess. the worst that can happen i guess is she'll get pissed off and blow up and you, and then it'll all come out. or if you are totally convinced she is depressed, it will take time, shitloads of it. cause she will really not want to "burden" you with stuff. sometimes, when i was going through that, i would call up a friend and tell them to "just talk to me, talk about anything' and i would listen to them ramble on about some computer program or school or something. and it may have been a distraction from my stuff, but they KNEW that eventually i might say something, and even if it took a couple hours, eventuallly i would feel comfortable enough to trust them a little bit with what was going on. and THAT'S when you would encourage her i guess to talk to a counselor, and offer to go with her to drop her off etc or pick her up... i wish i could help a bit more. depression is not a fun thing. ...just be there for her, but rememeber not too get too worked up over things, stability is always nice, but in the end she has to admit to her self that there is a problem and get help. but extending a hand or a 20-ft extension ladder out to her is nice too. Last edited by minimedgirl; 11-13-2004 at 01:53 PM..