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Diuretica · 11-02-2004, 11:36 PM

First of all, I'm in high school so I realize that this problem sounds immensely trivial. Yet, I still ask for any advice as I hope to gain experience as to what pathways I have open in the future and get to see different perspectives on the situation. Oh, and this is my first post, though I've lurked for a while, so don't hate on me too bad if I sound a little stupid

Well, I suppose i should lay out my story and see what you guys have to say so here it goes:

I've known this girl for a while now, maybe 4 or 5 years, and I guess you can say we've had a mutual "friendship". I've gone in and out of phases of liking her and judging by different signs, she has gone in and out of phases of liking me.

At the point when school started though, it was comfortable between us and there were no feelings. As school progressed, she started to initialize conversation and go out of her way to be around me, at least from the views of our peers. I didn't really think anything of it, but as she started to come on to me more and more, i started to develop feelings for her as well. Something started to develop between us, even though I never stated it. Yet when I started to show the slightest inkling of fondness towards her, she shunned me and started badmouthing about me to our whole congregation we hang out with.

So as I've thought it out and here's what my possibilities are so far:
1) If I flat out tell her I never liked her in the first place, from here on after it would probably become awkward whenever she is around. The problem is I see her a lot in class and just when hanging out with friends.

2) If I just leave it alone, not only does it get uncomfortable around her, but with what she's spreading to her friends, it'll get uncomfortable around people I've known for a long time who are closer to her.

3) This whole thing between us has been a facade in my mind, though my peers and her peers have said otherwise. Who knows, maybe she's never liked me in the first place, in which case I have more to learn than I once thought.

4) Maybe High school girls are just weird

5) She's been playing me, though this has lasted a while with her just coming on to me, and myself not showing signs of interest.

At this moment, that's how it stands, and it just seems like I should take the lesser of the loss. I do see how insignificant this little problem is and how much I'm probably overanalyzing, but in this area of experience concerning the other sex, I'm rather short-handed. For this, I ask you guys as to what you can say about relations concerning these types of problems, and relations in general. At this point, I'm just looking to learn and gain first-hand knowledge about this type of stuff, and I was wondering which pathway might benefit me the most so later I won't have to think so much about these types of problems.

Well, I appreciate any feedback I might get, thanks.

11-02-2004, 11:36 PM	#1 (permalink)
Diuretica Upright	A high school dilemna First of all, I'm in high school so I realize that this problem sounds immensely trivial. Yet, I still ask for any advice as I hope to gain experience as to what pathways I have open in the future and get to see different perspectives on the situation. Oh, and this is my first post, though I've lurked for a while, so don't hate on me too bad if I sound a little stupid Well, I suppose i should lay out my story and see what you guys have to say so here it goes: I've known this girl for a while now, maybe 4 or 5 years, and I guess you can say we've had a mutual "friendship". I've gone in and out of phases of liking her and judging by different signs, she has gone in and out of phases of liking me. At the point when school started though, it was comfortable between us and there were no feelings. As school progressed, she started to initialize conversation and go out of her way to be around me, at least from the views of our peers. I didn't really think anything of it, but as she started to come on to me more and more, i started to develop feelings for her as well. Something started to develop between us, even though I never stated it. Yet when I started to show the slightest inkling of fondness towards her, she shunned me and started badmouthing about me to our whole congregation we hang out with. So as I've thought it out and here's what my possibilities are so far: 1) If I flat out tell her I never liked her in the first place, from here on after it would probably become awkward whenever she is around. The problem is I see her a lot in class and just when hanging out with friends. 2) If I just leave it alone, not only does it get uncomfortable around her, but with what she's spreading to her friends, it'll get uncomfortable around people I've known for a long time who are closer to her. 3) This whole thing between us has been a facade in my mind, though my peers and her peers have said otherwise. Who knows, maybe she's never liked me in the first place, in which case I have more to learn than I once thought. 4) Maybe High school girls are just weird 5) She's been playing me, though this has lasted a while with her just coming on to me, and myself not showing signs of interest. At this moment, that's how it stands, and it just seems like I should take the lesser of the loss. I do see how insignificant this little problem is and how much I'm probably overanalyzing, but in this area of experience concerning the other sex, I'm rather short-handed. For this, I ask you guys as to what you can say about relations concerning these types of problems, and relations in general. At this point, I'm just looking to learn and gain first-hand knowledge about this type of stuff, and I was wondering which pathway might benefit me the most so later I won't have to think so much about these types of problems. Well, I appreciate any feedback I might get, thanks. Last edited by Diuretica; 11-02-2004 at 11:42 PM..