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tiltedbc · 10-26-2004, 08:40 PM

The reason I'm asking for your advice is because this is what you're gonna do no matter what anyone says. It also makes you admit you just don't have a plan. You're going to "cut her out of your life"? Tell me how you just stop caring for someone. I've been going through a bit of that myself over a girl and it's wearing me down. There I go... I just thought of her again.

Cutting people out of your life sounds a bit scary as well. Like the line from Hey Jude, "its a fool who plays it cool By making his world a little colder". Is this really going to get you anything?

I also don't see the advantage of ending a long term relationship without making an effort to work things out...
so here's MY advice.... and this could be long.

What should you do regarding your relationship? Nothing. At least for now.

You're being played to see how you'll react. Your Ex is testing you by giving Doug false information and Doug is happy to help destroy your relationship with this girl because.. who knows? He wants to make everyone happy besides sleeping with your ex. Yeah I know, Doug doesn't have a penis and it's impossible. Your ex would never sleep with him to piss you off.

Mutual friends can be a problem in a relationship. Both you and your Ex need to stop talking to Doug until things are straightened out. Don't discuss your relationship with anyone. Tell Doug your Ex has genital herpes for good measure.

Don't sleep with people you work with! There's a reason people say this. It's a closed environment where you're forced to be with people even if you don't like them. Reduce contact with each other while at work and keep your personal life outside of work. Welcome to the adult world. Don't dip your wick in the company well.

Your Ex sounds like fun. I'm guessing kind of sassy. You're not on here to complain about how shitty sex is with her or that she's dull. If she's interested in having sex with ya, whatcha doing on the internet?

Ask her to stop playing headgames through Doug and decide outright if she wants a relationship with you. If she does, and you're still attracted to her, then it's worth it to work things out. Most serious relationships go through bumps like these as you go along. You're lucky if it's not something big like a pregnacy or legal problem. How you work out problems is one of the defining traits of a successful relationship.

Take her out for a long walk. Fall really is a romantic time, so you're in luck. Tell her she can't use someone who's already willing to give whatever he can. If you're really in love, this isn't hard to say. Explain that if she wants a relationship with you, she won't drain you and spoil her own future. Does she want to have a relationship with you?

Do you want to have a relationship with her? Even if it's not perfect?

10-26-2004, 08:40 PM	#11 (permalink)
tiltedbc Crazy Location: BC, Canada	The reason I'm asking for your advice is because this is what you're gonna do no matter what anyone says. It also makes you admit you just don't have a plan. You're going to "cut her out of your life"? Tell me how you just stop caring for someone. I've been going through a bit of that myself over a girl and it's wearing me down. There I go... I just thought of her again. Cutting people out of your life sounds a bit scary as well. Like the line from Hey Jude, "its a fool who plays it cool By making his world a little colder". Is this really going to get you anything? I also don't see the advantage of ending a long term relationship without making an effort to work things out... so here's MY advice.... and this could be long. What should you do regarding your relationship? Nothing. At least for now. You're being played to see how you'll react. Your Ex is testing you by giving Doug false information and Doug is happy to help destroy your relationship with this girl because.. who knows? He wants to make everyone happy besides sleeping with your ex. Yeah I know, Doug doesn't have a penis and it's impossible. Your ex would never sleep with him to piss you off. Mutual friends can be a problem in a relationship. Both you and your Ex need to stop talking to Doug until things are straightened out. Don't discuss your relationship with anyone. Tell Doug your Ex has genital herpes for good measure. Don't sleep with people you work with! There's a reason people say this. It's a closed environment where you're forced to be with people even if you don't like them. Reduce contact with each other while at work and keep your personal life outside of work. Welcome to the adult world. Don't dip your wick in the company well. Your Ex sounds like fun. I'm guessing kind of sassy. You're not on here to complain about how shitty sex is with her or that she's dull. If she's interested in having sex with ya, whatcha doing on the internet? Ask her to stop playing headgames through Doug and decide outright if she wants a relationship with you. If she does, and you're still attracted to her, then it's worth it to work things out. Most serious relationships go through bumps like these as you go along. You're lucky if it's not something big like a pregnacy or legal problem. How you work out problems is one of the defining traits of a successful relationship. Take her out for a long walk. Fall really is a romantic time, so you're in luck. Tell her she can't use someone who's already willing to give whatever he can. If you're really in love, this isn't hard to say. Explain that if she wants a relationship with you, she won't drain you and spoil her own future. Does she want to have a relationship with you? Do you want to have a relationship with her? Even if it's not perfect?