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Spidey · 10-24-2004, 05:02 AM

damn i got here too slow :E

speaking from experience telling them does not work. The only time it really works is if you get lucky and that doesn't happen often, probably same chance as winning the lottery. What i have discovered from being in this situation so many times is to firstly go see other people, you don't have to be interested in them, but surrounding yourself with lots of girls and making them laugh and such builds up some jealousy. Although this doesn't always work (if she REALLY likes the other guy) it has bought me some results. You need to distance yourself and make yourself unavaliable to her sometimes so that she can "miss you" and the only way to do this is to keep yourself busy with other females.

I can't promise you this will work 100% of the time, but from the results that i get nowdays after being in that situation many many times the only way to spark attraction is not to be there, but to make yourself unavalible. like the saying goes "you always want something you can't have" and the way to do it is to make it so she can't have you.

I know what you are thinking with the whole nice guy routine, i'm not saying that you should stop being a nice guy, its more like be nice to her but not be her personal psychologist. You can still make something out of this, what i recommend you do is to still be friends, but be lose friends and stand hanging out and making more chick friends. Surround yourself with them, then when she sees what she missed out the attraction will spark.

Good Luck, although luck isn't really the solution.

Edit: also like to throw in the "shes the one for me mindset" doesn't work. Try to see it as "if you let it go and it comes back then take things further if not then its all good" mindset.

10-24-2004, 05:02 AM	#14 (permalink)
Spidey Crazy Location: Wellington, New Zealand	damn i got here too slow :E speaking from experience telling them does not work. The only time it really works is if you get lucky and that doesn't happen often, probably same chance as winning the lottery. What i have discovered from being in this situation so many times is to firstly go see other people, you don't have to be interested in them, but surrounding yourself with lots of girls and making them laugh and such builds up some jealousy. Although this doesn't always work (if she REALLY likes the other guy) it has bought me some results. You need to distance yourself and make yourself unavaliable to her sometimes so that she can "miss you" and the only way to do this is to keep yourself busy with other females. I can't promise you this will work 100% of the time, but from the results that i get nowdays after being in that situation many many times the only way to spark attraction is not to be there, but to make yourself unavalible. like the saying goes "you always want something you can't have" and the way to do it is to make it so she can't have you. I know what you are thinking with the whole nice guy routine, i'm not saying that you should stop being a nice guy, its more like be nice to her but not be her personal psychologist. You can still make something out of this, what i recommend you do is to still be friends, but be lose friends and stand hanging out and making more chick friends. Surround yourself with them, then when she sees what she missed out the attraction will spark. Good Luck, although luck isn't really the solution. Edit: also like to throw in the "shes the one for me mindset" doesn't work. Try to see it as "if you let it go and it comes back then take things further if not then its all good" mindset.