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I am bi and switch, figuring out where I am with every new people. I have tried 24/7 D/s and a less strict systems. While I don't want there to be much physical pain, the sadism has somehow taken over and spread from bedroom to be real relationship violence which I didn't want. When I say this out loud, kinky people start screaming that I shouldn't feed generalizations like I was saying it's always that way. It's been like that For Me, every time I've seriously pursued relationship with fixed power positions and I have let go of that idea.
I know couples which are equal and the women are quite dominant personalities that could call 'emselves feminists and still they are subs. One of them is the chairman of the board in my local kinky club and she has published an auto-biography so she is a celeb in the circles. She lamented that many men see her in TV or read her interviews and then come to her at the parties, trying to prove her how good domme she'd be 'cos she appears to be so strong willed and bold person.
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