I had a real hard time with this before the age of 25. Got easier afterwards. It's kind of a shame that a lot of us have a hard time relating to the other sex as complete people because we keep thinking about sex all the time, but that's the way it is. I was there myself. But I had this ideology going at the time that stated that I shouldn't start making friends with a woman if the major factor was that I was sexually attracted to her. That was all real humanistic, but it kept me from having sex until a moderately late age by today's standards; if I could go back in time and rethink things, I might, though this approach did keep me from making several really (on hindsight) bad decisions.
So far both I and tecoyah are assuming this issue is sexual at the root, and you may disagree. But if we're wrong, why do you have this problem only with _attractive_ women? Raging hormones don't just induce a feeling of lust, but of obsession also.
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