Originally Posted by Fire

this is kind of a tough situation for me because those that I am close to, are very straight foreward, very up front and tend to declare any probs they have - many of us have lost people in our lives suddenly, and it just seems that we dont beat around the bush at all- so for me it would be damned hard to just abide and not know what someone I cared for was facing- my wife and I knew each other's life stories from the first week we were together, and the same is true of most of my friends and their S/O's - does it expose us to potential embarassment and lower the emotional armor- hell yes, but life is so short, and if you do not risk it all you cannot win it all...
so, best of luck, and when you do find out what it is, decide if you can handle it, and if so, then go in for all you are worth-