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billege · 08-13-2004, 12:08 AM

I see you're just looking for some problem here. I don't know what it is, but part of it relates to a problem you certainly do have, but don't seem to have realized.

If there has been a pregnacy "scare" with her taking the pill correctly and you using condoms, I have issues.
By "correctly" I mean this: she takes the pill, every day, at about the same time, and is taking whatever brand as her dr. has instructed.
If she is taking the pill, like it should be taken, then it's 97-99.9% effective. The only reducer of effectiveness I can find is that some other meds reduce it.

If you are using a condom, that you put on even half right,and aren't using any oil based lubes, from the first point of insertion to climax, you're at damn near 97% effectiveness there too.

There is no fucking way that those conditions results in any kind of pregnecy scare as a result of your sperm hitting her cervix. Sorry, the numbers just aren't there and it'd be some sort of statistical freak that never happens if you somehow got her pregnant with that combo.

If you're using condoms, no bullshit, each and every time, start to finish, there's damn near YOU'RE not shooting sperm in there.
Do you help her remember to take the pill? I ask my wife every day, because that's OUR pill, not hers.
Even if she wasn't taking the pill at all ou shouldn't be having scares if you're using condoms.
If her period is all over the place even on the pill, which is unlikely, she should talk to her dr. to find out why.

The problem you DO have is a startling lack of honesty between you and her. If she's thinking she may be pregnent with YOUR child, there is no fucking way it's okay for her to keep that secret from you. In a relationship so perfect, her concerns ARE your concerns. Your concenrs ARE hers too. The fact that she's hiding this until she feels it's your business is a huge problem.

Not to be a dick, but if she's having pregnency scares with you using a condom EVERY time, start to finish, you'd better be asking her who else is pumping sperm into her, becuase you're not!

Also, if you can't handle a child, and you're looking at abortion as a way to bail yourself out of a problem, keep your dick in your pants. Seriously.
If you are so afraid of having a child that it's simply a non-option for YOU, don't fuck HER. It's that simple. Lick each other off, use fingers, vibrators, whatever! Fuck if I care.
But I tell you this:

Fucking makes babies. I you can ABSOLUTELY not chance having a kid, DO NOT FUCK! It's that simple pal.

There are far too many people fucking for the fun of it, and running when there's some work from it all. That is bullshit.

If you can't have a kid, under any circumstances at this point in your life, seriously, don't fuck. There you go.

If you have admitted to yourself that a kid may happen, then you've asked yourself, I hope, if you can father that child with her. If not, then you need to take precautions, which you say you are, or not fuck.

If she's taking the pill, and you're wearing condoms EVERY TIME (I can't stress that enough) then there is no goddamn way you're knocking her up. No way, no how.

If you can't handle the idea of taking those chances, with those incredible odds, and she's not going to give you a failsafe with an abortion, then you need to not have intercourse. It's that simple.

PS--I have some issues with this subject, so I apologize for the hositility, it's not directed at you. I get worked up over people who want to fuck but not deal with all it involves.

08-13-2004, 12:08 AM	#9 (permalink)
billege Watcher Location: Ohio	I see you're just looking for some problem here. I don't know what it is, but part of it relates to a problem you certainly do have, but don't seem to have realized. If there has been a pregnacy "scare" with her taking the pill correctly and you using condoms, I have issues. By "correctly" I mean this: she takes the pill, every day, at about the same time, and is taking whatever brand as her dr. has instructed. If she is taking the pill, like it should be taken, then it's 97-99.9% effective. The only reducer of effectiveness I can find is that some other meds reduce it. If you are using a condom, that you put on even half right,and aren't using any oil based lubes, from the first point of insertion to climax, you're at damn near 97% effectiveness there too. There is no fucking way that those conditions results in any kind of pregnecy scare as a result of your sperm hitting her cervix. Sorry, the numbers just aren't there and it'd be some sort of statistical freak that never happens if you somehow got her pregnant with that combo. If you're using condoms, no bullshit, each and every time, start to finish, there's damn near YOU'RE not shooting sperm in there. Do you help her remember to take the pill? I ask my wife every day, because that's OUR pill, not hers. Even if she wasn't taking the pill at all ou shouldn't be having scares if you're using condoms. If her period is all over the place even on the pill, which is unlikely, she should talk to her dr. to find out why. The problem you DO have is a startling lack of honesty between you and her. If she's thinking she may be pregnent with YOUR child, there is no fucking way it's okay for her to keep that secret from you. In a relationship so perfect, her concerns ARE your concerns. Your concenrs ARE hers too. The fact that she's hiding this until she feels it's your business is a huge problem. Not to be a dick, but if she's having pregnency scares with you using a condom EVERY time, start to finish, you'd better be asking her who else is pumping sperm into her, becuase you're not! Also, if you can't handle a child, and you're looking at abortion as a way to bail yourself out of a problem, keep your dick in your pants. Seriously. If you are so afraid of having a child that it's simply a non-option for YOU, don't fuck HER. It's that simple. Lick each other off, use fingers, vibrators, whatever! Fuck if I care. But I tell you this: Fucking makes babies. I you can ABSOLUTELY not chance having a kid, DO NOT FUCK! It's that simple pal. There are far too many people fucking for the fun of it, and running when there's some work from it all. That is bullshit. If you can't have a kid, under any circumstances at this point in your life, seriously, don't fuck. There you go. If you have admitted to yourself that a kid may happen, then you've asked yourself, I hope, if you can father that child with her. If not, then you need to take precautions, which you say you are, or not fuck. If she's taking the pill, and you're wearing condoms EVERY TIME (I can't stress that enough) then there is no goddamn way you're knocking her up. No way, no how. If you can't handle the idea of taking those chances, with those incredible odds, and she's not going to give you a failsafe with an abortion, then you need to not have intercourse. It's that simple. PS--I have some issues with this subject, so I apologize for the hositility, it's not directed at you. I get worked up over people who want to fuck but not deal with all it involves. __________________ I can sum up the clash of religion in one sentence: "My Invisible Friend is better than your Invisible Friend."