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Originally posted by Weezil
Scared in the fact that their past relationships have been really bad and they are now faced with someone who they say meets all of their expectations and criteria. Scared that they don't want to screw things up or get hurt? Scared that things might not be as good as they hope?
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Yes. Trust can be a serious issue for someone who has been hurt. Give them time, and reassurance. Silence doesn't have to be an uncomfortable thing. Physical reassurance, like touching or holding hands always helps ensure affection. I'm sure they have many thoughts running through their head. Time is a good why to establish trust. Let it flow the way it will, don't rush things, or feel they should be different. If you really like each other, then I think you'll be okay.
Some people who have been hurt fear getting hurt again, and fear abandonment. It's good to work through these fears with open communication, patience and understanding. Even though silence can be fine, communication is the key to healthy functioning relationships. If there are issues, it's best to get them out in the open, and then work through them together. Like you would do with a family member, or your best friend.
Fear of failure is a common one, and I think everyone at one point of really liking someone thinks, "I hope this actually works out!" I think it would be weird not to. Taking risks can be the scariest, yet most rewarding thing in life. It's the difference between holding back, and living. Always live, it's the only way to gain, and grow. Try to have as little regrets as possible.