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I think women cheat for different reasons for men, typically. Men enjoy sex. Almost universally, and if they aren't spending time with the SO to get it at home, they'll look elsewhere. Or maybe they're just dogs and would do it regardless of their status with their SO. There are the sex crazed women out there too, I'm sure, but typically, it seems that women cheat when they are not being emotionally supported by their SO. So they get involved emotionally with another and end up in bed, because that's how relationships work, right?
I'm glad that women feel more empowered to take control over their own relationships, but ideally they'd be talking to their SO about whats going wrong and fix it. I'm sure its a lot harder than it sounds, however.
I also don't think its fair to dump someone immediately after a 'betrayal'. I think everyone betrays their SO in thought or in deed at some point. No one has the right to stand on a moral high horse about this issue. It really depends on the relationship. If there was some agreement by both that it was the end when either one strayed, I could see an immediate termination, but even then, if you can't work through the issue or at least talk through the issue as a couple after it happens, I think your relationship may not have been solid anyway.
A little story...I was a 'good' boyfriend and repeatedly took back my emotionally unstable gf after she slept with someone else. The first was damaging but we made it through. The second was a 'drinking' accident that sounded like she didn't/couldn't stop it (in another country even, not good, borderline rape, but I didn't really trust her, so I never really knew if it was rape or she wanted it). The third time was the charm. At that point she had been my wife for about 9 months (were together for 4 years) and I moved out and eventually divorced her. In hindsight, I really wasn't paying attention to her like I should have on a normal, daily basis. I guess she felt empowered.
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