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I think there's something to be said for choosing your mood if you're just having a normal day, but there's also something to be said for letting strong emotions run their course. I never cried so hard as when I'd been suppressing grief for my brother for a few days. I'd be upset for a week after it had built up for a while, but if I'd just let the sadness be there and gone through it, it wouldn't have built up till it was unbearable and was affecting everything else in my life. You have a reason to be anxious: someone you love is very sick. You're having a normal reaction in the first few days and weeks. Don't try to suppress it or ignore it, but don't wallow in it, either. And try not to be anxious about things that don't matter (the fender) or that you can't really do anything about (car crashes). Just go ahead and face how scared you are about your mom's cancer, and then do the things that are there to be done: spend time with her, research her condition, help her out however she needs it - listening to her, helping around the house, spending time with her. I know it's not fun to be anxious, but resisting it (as opposed to acknowledging it and then doing what you can to address the things you're anxious about) only makes it worse.
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"If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing."
- Anatole France
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