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Originally posted by gduventree
The most important thing here is to communicate openly with your girlfriend. Find out from her what she really wants in this situation. If she wants to maintain her "friendship" with her ex, then you've got some serious thinking to do. There may be some pretty deep issues you need to deal with here.
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i completely agree. HookedOnChronic, you say that you've been 100% open and honest about how you feel towards this situation, yet you still get into arguments and cranky moods when you talk about it... obviously something isn't right. you don't know how she truly feels about it or else you wouldn't be so confused about how to fix the problem.
you need to approach her with the same frame of mind that you'd want her to have when you're explaining your side of things. reassure her that you want to truly understand what she's thinking and how she feels and that you won't judge her no matter what she says and then follow through with those promises. listen with an open mind and try to think of things from her point of view... i'm sure you'll find some good solutions if you do get her to open up.