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Originally posted by Averett
1. You know your girlfriend would be angry about the situation.
2. You can't get this other girl out of your mind.
3. You're trying to come up with ways to get coffee with this girl without your girlfriend finding out.
4. You said you want to find out if there could be "something there" with this other girl.
You should just fuck her and get it over with. You're also full of it when you say that you want to ask her for coffee just so she doesn't think you're just some dirtbag. You obviously want to see if you can start something with her.
If you're really honest about taking this girl out for coffee so she doesn't think you're a jerk, then strap on your balls and tell your girlfriend this:
"I was out the other night and we ended up talking with some girls. One of them lives by me so I thought I'd be nice and save her the cab fare home and I dropped her off. I thought it would be nice to take her out for coffee. Would you mind?"
But honestly, you're as good as cheating in my book. Maybe I'm a bit harsh, but I expect honesty in relationships.
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Averett is right - yes, you are cheating. No, you don't get to "try on other people" when you're in a relationship. You wouldn't have posted this thread if you didn't feel guilty. Either leave your "gf of four years" or be loyal to her. Just because you get a charge out of some chick who shows you some interest after FOUR YEARS of being in a stable relationship should not immediately negate that relationship. If it does, you're just following your wanker regardless of what you may say to the contrary.
Men. *sigh*
And there is how much money being spent on studies to determine why the divorce rate is 50%? Just visit your local bar and find all the guys AND girls who are in long-term committed relationships who get their jollies off a little drunken lust and attention from someone new and ruin their loving, stable long-term relationships!!!
Sorry, but you'll be hardpressed to find a woman particularly who doesn't feel pretty strongly about this "gray area" IT'S NOT A GRAY AREA!!!! Staying in some flirting chick's apartment until 5 a.m. is not okay. Dump your girlfriend and then you can stay with a different chick every night guilt-free...