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My ex-wife decided she didn't want to be a wife or a mom 6-1/2 years ago. My daughter was 4 my son was 21 months. I have been raising them on my own ever since. She hasn't spoken w/ the kids in well over 3 years. It's all the kids have known and they have adapted reasonably well, my daughter misses her mom at times, but she is dealing well with it. My son never really knew his mom so to him the concept of having a mom is kind of abstract. I believe that the kids look to their parents to see how to react to situations, treat as normal, and they will most likely look at it as normal. The best piece of advice I ever received about this situation was from my sister. She said "(insert real name here) Those kids NEVER need to hear you talk bad about their mother, no matter what she has done." and they never have, nor will they ever. I am pretty open with them about things but there are some things (like her affairs, or repeated suicide attempts) that they don't not need to know about.
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