Women asking men out

I'm with the "do it" crew. I have been asked out about as much as I've asked women out.

For the record it's a low number either way, but it averages to about 50/50.

 

Last girl that hit on me is still hanging around.


Subtlety is totally lost on some of us.

 

this. it's pretty nice having your suspicions confirmed that they want to touch your dangly parts and hang out without having to do the asking.

 

I can be flirty, but sometimes I'm slow on the uptake, so a woman just has to spell it out to me. And yes, a woman saying she wants to be with you is quite a turn on.

 

Very much agreed in the abstract, but I don't have any experience with this.

About 40 years ago, a woman writing in the local underground/alternative paper criticized men for being so negative toward women asking them out. That article made a big impression on me.

Then and there, I resolved that I would (1) never make a woman feel bad for asking, and (2) if at all possible, accept.

But, like I said, it was about as useful as a non-actor practicing an Academy Award acceptance speech. Women in the supposedly liberated 1970s and 1980s were not so forward as they are today.

Moreover, given the low acceptance rate when I was doing the asking, I wasn't the kind of guy any woman would defy gender norms to get a date with.

 

What's important is your willingness to be accepting to change. Well, in my opinion.

 

I wasn't really aware that there was any sort of stigma with this left in Western society.

While it is the male who asks out the female a majority of the time, its pretty much biology that dictates that. I can't recall any "negativity" to a woman asking a man out, even as a young man.

 

Never before have words so relevant to my life, ever been spoken.

 

This, pretty much. Resilience is something that's built and exercised like a muscle. Humans are social creatures; Rejection is something that can cut someone to their very core, bringing them to question whether they're even worth loving, and it takes a strong emotional resilience to stand up to that time and again... And for a lot of people when they get that wound scar tissue grows back instead of healthy muscle.

Picked up a permanent roommate?

Definitely fortunate for your spawn.

 

That's one way to put it. We've been married 34 years.

 

Just like women asking men to marry but less commitment of course ..it's awesome bc it shows how much she wants to be with u to break what's normal and not care what ppl say ..

On the other hand we all shouldn't care and it shouldn't be different but it's just how society has been until recent ..I think/hope this "trend"(tired can't think of a better word) of women asking men out will continue and eventually won't be any different than a guy asking a girl .

 

So the response is no response. He hasn't un-friended me, and has also marked the message as unread (for over a week) and is not signing onto chat anymore like he used to when we talked together before. Oh well. Weird. I expected a more definite answer. Moving on.

 

has he mentioned a SO in conversation before?

 

Don't know why I'm posting this. Guess I'm just annoyed. So like over three months since I posted, now he answers..,.and says yes. WTF! He did apologize, but still ...a bit weird.
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We don't run into each other face-to_face. Or at least not on purpose.
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No, never mentioned one. :-\