Which is more important: what you say or how you say it? Explain your answer.

Indeed, chinese crested. It seems to me that throwing (whatever) out there is like chumming for sharks. I'm thinking that language will draw some to the surface, so I'm still frantically swimming. I also hold doors for women & have pleasant conversations with strangers. Maybe it's what you say. & eye contact.

 

I too hold doors, even though experience teaches that you will be pinned in that position by rushing hoards most likely. Most of us in an elevator, doors starting to close, someone trying to make it - we hold the door right. Most of the people I meet tend to be animal people. We talk about our dogs, and although I have problems remembering the names of people, I remember their dogs life storys. Yesterday I met a retired policewoman who told me she reported a dog in dire straits and the relevant charity did nothing. She wasnt going to leave it - so she got onto one of the old gals with a dog rescue, and the animal was 'lifted'. Sometimes there is that slight difference between what is lawfull and what is right dont you think.

 

I also believe it's more about how you say it than what you actually talk about. I never make the first step when talking to strangers, but if someone asks me something or simply starts talking to me, I always answer politely. It doesn't really matter what you say or the topic as long as you show interest in what the other person is saying. And smiling is also important.

 

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First steps, untaken,​

never give you, beforehand,​

what knowing you need.​