1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.
  2. We've had very few donations over the year. I'm going to be short soon as some personal things are keeping me from putting up the money. If you have something small to contribute it's greatly appreciated. Please put your screen name as well so that I can give you credit. Click here: Donations
    Dismiss Notice
Cookies Donations 2021

What questions would you ask someone when you first meet them?

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by ASU2003, Apr 1, 2013.

Page 2 of 2
  1. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    Excerpt from actual conversation between my husband and I that fits this question:

    "How do you feel about bananas?"
    "Bananas?"
    "In pajamas."
    "In pajamas?"
    "Coming down the stairs."
    "..."
    "Chasing teddy bears."
    "Well, that's all right, I guess, so long as they're not chasing me."

    Modified from:
     
    snowy, Apr 4, 2013
    #21
  2. shanifaye

    shanifaye Dominissive

    Location:
    Lilburn, GA
    I don't usually have a question, its a statement. I love to gauge the reactions when I say "I have my own dungeon"
     
    shanifaye, Apr 4, 2013
    #22
    • Like Like x 1
  3. Fangirl

    Fangirl Very Tilted

    Location:
    Arizona
    I get where you are coming from rogue49 as there's a thin line between putting your best (face) forward and outright deceit.

    When things have gone sour in my relationships, I have heard, 'But you were so [insert happy adjective] when I met you!' My last response to this was, Yeah, but you saw my absolute worst side 5 months into our relationship, why wasn't it enough to drive you away?!
    I'm upfront about my shit in that in younger years I was really moody (hormonal, whatever) but you would never get that from me in early, getting to know phase. I asserted that I could be a real bitch. (I used to have a quick temper, quick cool-off. I've actually learned to chill as I've gotten older, wait things out a bit before hitting the auto-response button.) There's never an excuse for deception, but there may be at times an explanation: self-deception.

    I guess I'm agreeing with what you said (in another thread, I think) that when getting into a relationship take your time, don't rush.
    I would add if you see little red flags, do not ignore them. Pay attention, for sometimes they become BIG red flags but by then, you may be in really deep.
     
    Fangirl, Apr 4, 2013
    #23
  4. Raghnar

    Raghnar Getting Tilted

    Sehr gut liebe Freund/Freudin, und dir?

    My favorite of the moment:
    How do you keep a star in a binary system after the other one went supernova?
     
    Raghnar, Apr 5, 2013
    #24
  5. Jove

    Jove Slightly Tilted

    Location:
    Michigan
    I haven't talked to you in a long time, how have you been?
     
    Jove, Apr 5, 2013
    #25
  6. genuinemommy

    genuinemommy Moderator Staff Member

    "So, what's your story?"
    It usually catches people off-guard, but I find it's a great way to get people to open up.
    If they're confused by what I mean, I follow up by "What brought you to this place in life?" or "What made you decide to _____ (insert applicable verb here)." If they're still confused, I share a quick quip about myself to get them going. Something like: "I grew up in CA and moved to Ohio for grad school, it was a good move."
     
    genuinemommy, May 15, 2013
    #26
    • Like Like x 1
Page 2 of 2