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Tinder....

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by streak_56, Feb 7, 2014.

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  1. Baraka_Guru

    Baraka_Guru Möderätor Staff Member

    Location:
    Toronto
    This thread is seriously lacking in Tinder stories.
     
    Baraka_Guru, Dec 12, 2014
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  2. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC

    I think it turned into a generic online dating tips thread
    Actually, I was thinking of trying it out, especially since I'm in the city more.
     
    Last edited: Dec 12, 2014
    rogue49, Dec 12, 2014
    #62
  3. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    Based on what I've heard from single lady friends, you are far beyond Tinder's target audience, but good luck.
     
    snowy, Dec 12, 2014
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  4. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC

    True, to a certain extent...but you never know, I've had stranger luck.
    To me, it's the click...not any particular "rules" (other than the law, of course)
    With these things, you try it...see if it works. (and they all say they work...)

    Actually, I've been surprised at the range of women flirting with me. (and those I'll walk away from too...you just have to go with your instinct)
    It's not your age or looks often...it's your comfort and ability to banter. (and vice versa for me)

    It's a weird world...
     
    Last edited: Dec 13, 2014
    rogue49, Dec 13, 2014
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  5. OtherSyde

    OtherSyde Slightly Tilted

    Location:
    San Diego, CA

    You sound like a professional PUA coach :cool:
     
    OtherSyde, Dec 20, 2014
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  6. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC

    Not at all...I'm either on...or I'm off. (mostly I'm off...I think)
    But others say in comparison to others...I'm more "on" than others.
    I certainly don't feel like it.
    I know I when I'm self-conscious about it, I tend to over-think, over-talk (nahhh, you Rogue??) ...and I get overly polite and don't feel comfortable asking them out.
    And my mom's "put women on a pedestal" drill kicks in...or "overly" respect them. Strangely, ladies don't like this...they want you to be "casual" and "cool" to them. (which I don't want to...I want to be near them as much as I can)
    So the whole back & forth, care/not care thing really throws me off.

    BUT...it's when I'm just "there", bantering away...telling a good story...I get a rhythm going.
    I can't do it intentionally...it just has to happen naturally, relaxed and happy-go lucky ...you know, like Robin Williams in a WWF wrestlers head/body. (and no, I know I'm not that built...but you get the point)

    However, because I'm an analytical SOB...even though I can't trigger it...I can remember all perspectives after the fact and analyze the bejeezus out of it. (and tell others tips..."Those that can't do, teach")

    So, when I'm "on"...I can do it with the best.
    Unfortunately, when I want to be on...I'm off.
    So I'm better "off", then I'm on.
    Get it??
    I'm friggin' weird...and we'll let it go at that. :rolleyes:

    Basically my "method" is the willingness to totally humiliate myself.
    I think people call it, "oblivious"

    I do know this now...you gotta just put yourself out there. No matter what.
    And when it happens...it happens. No rules, they like you...or they don't.
    Sometimes think drearily, "It's just one of those days"...and sometimes you think surprised & chipper, "It's just one of those days!"
    If only I could go back and slap myself around a little bit when I was younger...
     
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    rogue49, Dec 20, 2014
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  7. Street Pattern

    Street Pattern Very Tilted

    Location:
    The American Midwest
    My impossible-to-analyze "thing" is my uncanny ability to calm down agitated or crazy people.

    In my office, the standing rule for dealing with a problem customer is to summon me.

    Once I start talking to them (and listening), they're not a problem any more.

    My staff calls me "the jerk whisperer."
     
    Last edited: Dec 20, 2014
    Street Pattern, Dec 20, 2014
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  8. Chris Noyb

    Chris Noyb Get in, buckle up, hang on, & be quiet.

    Location:
    Large City, TX
    That, IME, is a priceless skill.
     
    Chris Noyb, Dec 20, 2014
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  9. OtherSyde

    OtherSyde Slightly Tilted

    Location:
    San Diego, CA

    That pretty much describes me exactly. Gotta be in the right head-space, and unlike the types of people who are just natural social aficionados or extroverts 90% of the time, it just sort of comes and goes for me and I have to try and ride that train when it comes through, and minimize my presence the rest of the time. I think a lot of people are like this (sort of on-and-off, sort of in the middle of the spectrum), while I suspect the people who exist on the far ends of the spectrum like the extremely proficient charmers/extroverts and the extreme introverts/Aspergers-types are less common.

    Wow after typing this reply I just noticed this thread was about Tinder lol... Looks like not a lot of us use Tinder huh? I think almost all of us are a little bit out of their ideal age range/demographic of young, care-free, model-esque pretty people. Oh well. Less STD's I guess, right?
     
    OtherSyde, Dec 20, 2014
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  10. Street Pattern

    Street Pattern Very Tilted

    Location:
    The American Midwest
    It probably comes from having a severely mentally ill parent.
     
    Street Pattern, Dec 20, 2014
    #70
  11. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    Actually, I wish they'd change the title of the thread to "online dating" and "dating in general"...it's more accurate where the thread went. (I'm one of the guilty ones)
    Maybe I'll ask a mod.
     
    rogue49, Dec 21, 2014
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