Thinking About Sex

Story of my life.

 

I was talking about this with my husband last night.

"34 seems low," he said. "It's kind of a constant hum in the background, isn't it? And what kind of time factor are we talking about here? If I think about sex for two hours, does that count as one long sex thought or lots of little separate sex thoughts?"

We then had an in-depth conversation about quantifying and studying sexual thoughts that I'm sure @hamsterball would have appreciated.

I married the right man.

 

Well, now you know why I'm fascinated by the series, "Masters of Sex" - HBO docudrama of Masters & Johnson's teaming and studies.
Not only were they doing was cutting edge, something that people hadn't done before to that extent.
So that's fascinating to see protrayed...the things people dealt with. (as they are doing now in a different environ)

But the things to do for a study on sex.
I wonder what techniques & methods they use these days to get both qualitative and quantitative info.
What do they do to get true input?
I'm sure there are a variety of psychological and sociological study methods...applied in this "colorful" topic.

People are getting better at being truthful.
IMHO, I think the internet is assisting with this...as it allows some anonymity and collection in volume over the world even.
So you may be able to see trends by region.

You'd just have to somehow factor out those who "falsify" their input.
Error percentages could account for some of that.

The study of the subject is always of interest to me. ...Love studies and documentaries on it. All different aspects.

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However, I agree with your husband @Snowy.
At least for me, it's a constant hum...always there.

Quiet a distraction, really.
It's a catch 22, I want it, I like it, It's a part of me...but it is a burden at times or take time/mind away from other things.

Strange thing is, for as much as an evangelist thinks about God & Bible...I think about women & sex.
Thank god I'm not excessive or out of control about it. And keep healthy thoughts & relationships. (like Dr. Ruth)

I'm sure there are true nymphomaniacs out there.
Both male & female, of all different levels and approaches.
Is anyone "edging" towards this or there already??

 

See, that's what I mean...the true way to do it would be with effort over time.
Comparison of poll after poll, because one or another could be an outlier.

And if you ask the question more often, people get used to the idea, so they are more willing to answer and do it honestly.
That...and the idiots & assholes will be already bored of it...and wouldn't care about fucking it up.

Then...after taking the poll, would you get, real stats.
This is how you qualify it...true trend analysis.

I wonder if we could harness one of those polling places that do political polls and ask them to do one on sex.
You'd have to be a brave polling company.
Even more so, you'd have to be a braver poll taker. (Could you imagine the intro??)
Frankly, I'd be more interested in answering that, than politics.

The only thing that I've seen that's done it over time is the "Real Sex" series on HBO.
Ooo...that would be a good reality series on cable, a QnA on sex....both polls and conversations. Perhaps even pundits who debate it.
Let me call my agent.

 

Sir, I don't believe you're the only one complaining about lack of sex with their SO.
There are many. I do sympathize and empathize.

However, they don't count and can't help...and so are on your own in this case.
The key is to figure out how to get some.
Either by getting them to participate...or requesting a redefinition of your relations.

Neither one of them is wrong, the first is preferable. (at least that's what most say...)
The 2nd I say is fine as long as it is understood...not a betrayal of trust. (It's hard also because others are "judging" you...including yourself at times)

My question is, why are we in a relationship?
Isn't that one of the criteria? It is for most from what I understand.
So I often wonder why many put up with it.

I understand there are reasons...and it isn't an easy answer.
Difficult to bring up, difficult to negotiate, difficult to change.
Been there myself. (but I had a "medical" rationalization from her...or at least that was the excuse, real or otherwise...or both)

My question is this...if we think about sex, we want sex, this IS important.
So how do we set terms...and get something that is a key aspect to your short life on this planet. (for you, not anyone else)

So is it, the people we're dealing with are complicated
Or are we complicating the matter more than it should be??

IMHO, I think we complicate it...and don't deal with it.
It shouldn't be this way...shouldn't have to ask...but reality is, you do at times...and if you want it, you gotta followup on it.
It's like getting a friggin' job at times. (here's my resume...and why you should "hire" me )
But you need a job...get a job... (pun intended)

 

This afternoon has been a red hot miasma of sexual thought and deed. Wow.

Pretty sure I just wrecked my husband's train of thought by walking through the living room in cheekies and a t-shirt.

 

Actually, divorce doesn't have to cost...the key is to make it mutual.
And then learn the rules of the local area...they're usually on the internet site these days. (or the court clerks can help you)
Mine only cost me $300 for forms and fees.
It's the fight...and the division of assets that kills most...and the lawyers fees.
But if you can agree to divide whatever out of court, with no lawyers...and no argument, then it's easy. (you may have to wait a year for separation laws)

However, once split...you're on your own again.
So no guarantees...but there is the potential.

A person just has to put themselves out there again...and again & again (like a job)
...until you find a nice lady that wants to give you her body (and use yours too)
It's not often...but it's better than being frustrated forever. (there are better ways to live your short life)

Single just as being in a cold marriage while you're waiting...there's the internet and rosy palm & her 5 sisters for you.
However from your pics, you're young enough to find another that is sexually primed.

If you do the deed, use that sense of humor, originality and creativity to come up with really good shtick.
It would make a great posting on the dating sites.
Then pick & choose...and put it out there again & again...you'll strike gold sooner or later.

Bonus, some ladies will like you because you've been married already...shows you're not commitment-phobic.
One woman's garbage is another's gold.

I hope you're able to work it out with your wife, as @StreetPattern just did.
However, if you can't, it's not the end of the world either...people get divorced all the time. (hell, some make a hobby out of it)

In the meantime, think about sex a lot.
I know I do.

 

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Well, and he is a research engineer.