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TFP Pity Party! Everyone's Invited

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by DamnitAll, Aug 7, 2011.

  1. SCBronco

    SCBronco Getting Tilted

    that thought will pass when the pain does... and it should... the beginning is always the hardest part of any lifestyle change. Keep at it, when you can out perform kids half your age, your gonna feel great! i dont know you, but i'm proud of you anyway... stick with it!
     
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  2. uncle phil

    uncle phil Moderator Emeritus (and sorely missed) Staff Member Donor

    Location:
    pasco county
  3. Cayvmann

    Cayvmann Very Tilted

    Pity my household. I ate salmon cakes for lunch and now I have gas
     
  4. NetvorFena

    NetvorFena Vertical

    Location:
    Michigan
    In trying to get a teaching certificate from Michigan I have jumped through so many freaking hoops and getting sick of it.
    1. I had to get fingerprinted and a background check before getting a substitute certificate. This cost $75 but I figured I wouldn't have to do it again for my regular certificate.
    2. Found out that the police do not keep a record of your fingerprints after completing the background check so I had to get fingerprinted again. $75 I kept a copy this time.
    3. Started back to school to get my Master's because Michigan DOE said I needed an accredited school to acknowledge my previously unaccredited bachelors degree.
    4. Finished student teaching after having to set up my own student teaching arrangements because the individual at my school who was responsible for this waited until after school started this past fall to start making phone calls. We have a population in the entire Upper-Peninsula of Michigan that is actually smaller than the population of just the City of Phoenix, Az. No one at my school could seem to comprehend this.
    5. Finally got the school to send a letter to Michigan DOE with a listing of my credits and what particular endorsements (i.e. Health Impairments, Congitive Impairment, etc.) they applied to. This took more than 6 months an un-numbered calls and emails to try to explain this to one thick-headed individual after another.
    6. Found out that since I initially applied for my certificate that Michigan has created more tests that I have to take to get certified even though I've already taken THREE tests.
    7. My school forgot to include one of the endorsements that I am applying for in their letter to Michigan. Had to contact them to get the letter re-sent. I listed all of the endorsements in every email and phone calls to my school and yet they still don't get it.
    8. Graduated with my Masters before the school got around to sending my Institutional Endorsement letter.
    9. Michigan forgot to include one of my degrees on the certificate.
    10. I have to apply for my extra endorsements after my tests. These tests cost upwards of $200 and the testing location is 3 hours away with the first test beginning at 6:15 in the morning so I will have to stay in a motel the night before I'm sure. This will amount to an additional $50 minimum for accommodations.
    11. There is an additional fee for adding endorsements to my certificate $50.
    12. I discovered today that my certificate was entered as a secondary education certificate, not an elementary education SPED certificate...
    Fingerprints - twice $150
    Certification application - $190
    Additional Endorsements $50 x 3 = $150
    Initial testing $245
    Additional testing $200
    Accommodations $50+
    Schooling for Master's degree $40,000+
    This is getting ridiculous!!!! What now?!
     
  5. Crap, that sucks. But congrats on your Masters!
     
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  6. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    heh...Pity party? Shit, if I allowed it, it would be the equivalent to Mardi Gras, Carnival & Spring Break rolled into one...
    I just keep going, trying to do the right thing...work, pay bills, live life, keep a stiff upper lip, and smile and laugh where I can.

    The background?
    6 years of marriage...to a very colorful & passionate woman.
    However, since 1 month after our wedding...it's been a medical saga.

    She has Sjogren's (like Venus Williams), rheumatoid arthritis and now lupus. (yes, I know, it's NEVER lupus)

    - 30 + doctors
    - god knows how many diagnosises
    - god knows how many "situations"
    - god knows how many insurance claims
    - god knows how much money
    logistics, fraud, incompetance, research, malpractice, negotiation...and a variety of jobs for both of us that lost patience...

    And now, because of an Strep infection last year, that turned into a deadly Staph which lodged into mouth and throat,
    and a move next door to an unknown govt biological warfare testing lab waste area
    which has created a ton of micro fractures, ruined her jaw, affected her hearing...and now she need Jaw replacement,
    which no doctor in the region can do or is even willing to touch. (including NIH)

    Just another day...
    I'm used to everything now...everything every damn TV and Movie has ever described for cronic illness...I've been through, I've handled.
    And now, it's just another day.

    I do work, try to make that cool...fortunately they like me and I have flexible hours.
    I pay bills...don't even get me started.
    I take care of EVERYTHING. (cleaning, bills, vendors, cooking, etc, etc, etc, etc...)
    And I'm her biggest cheerleader and impromptu psychologist.

    And so I go on...and rest where I can.
    And I enjoy myself when I can.
    And just keep going.

    So, I'm pissed...at everything we've lost...time, wait on family, potential...and more.
    But I keep going.

    Wish us luck in finding the next doc.
    Wish me luck in getting my inventions out there. (and maybe continuing school...someday)
    Wish us luck in getting out of the black hole.
    Wish us luck in getting our family.

    We just keep going.

    Biggest thing I've learned about this.
    Smile. Enjoy yourself when you can. Rest. Still grow. And hope...always hope.
     
  7. Wow. That's a load to bear for both of you.

    Continued strength to both of you.
     
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  8. Cayvmann

    Cayvmann Very Tilted

    Just keep on keepin' on. It's surprising how much we can get through. I have a lot of experience with hospitals and taking care of sick family. It's tough, but it's worth it.

    Hope is good to have and a terrible thing to lose, so grab on tight when you have some.
     
  9. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    oh yeah...and sleep too...lots of sleep is nice.

    /for some reason I feel tired a lot...
     
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  10. Fangirl

    Fangirl Very Tilted

    Location:
    Arizona
    You've long had a fantastic work ethic and a practical 'let's get it done' attitude but with everything going on, one would certainly understand if you got discouraged. Your attitude though rogue49 , which I believe you've thanked your mom for in helping to shape, says to me that this guy, no matter what is gonna keep getting up, dusting himself off and taking on the next barrage of challenges.
    Much luck and (((hugs))) to you and your lady.
     
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  11. Cayvmann

    Cayvmann Very Tilted

    I'm finally walking without limping, much. Hey, that's not pitiful... I do have a headache though.

    I'm to happy to sing the blues, and that makes me sad
     
  12. Fangirl

    Fangirl Very Tilted

    Location:
    Arizona
    Went car shopping. I am giving up ('my precious') Mustang GT convertible for a Mercury Milan. Bleh. Old person's car.
     
  13. itwasme

    itwasme But you'll never prove it.

    Location:
    In the wind
    I finished writing a lengthy email with several links I copy/pasted. I was about to hit send. The portable heater tripped the surge protector, turning everything off.
     
  14. Viscount8

    Viscount8 New Member

    Location:
    Quebec, Canada
    Seemingly , for most of my adult life, I have frustrated both myself and others, with some very irrational behaviour. At least, I’m aware of it, now, and am working, very hard, on correcting that behaviour. I'm not always successful though. It is a work in progress!
     
  15. Fangirl

    Fangirl Very Tilted

    Location:
    Arizona
    I'm just mentally & emotionally exhausted. Feeling pretty alone and more than a little bit lonely.
     
  16. EventHorizon

    EventHorizon assuredly the cause of the angry Economy..

    Location:
    FREEDOM!
  17. uncle phil

    uncle phil Moderator Emeritus (and sorely missed) Staff Member Donor

    Location:
    pasco county
  18. Cayvmann

    Cayvmann Very Tilted

    My daughter will have to undergo yet another surgery on her back. This time to remove the hardware put in place to correct scoliosis. The bones are fused so the hardware will not have to be replaced. I have lost count, but I think this is the fourth or fifth time her back has had to be cut open for this. Most people only do it once.
     
  19. Fangirl

    Fangirl Very Tilted

    Location:
    Arizona
    My heart goes out to her.
    Let's hope this surgery does what it should and the poor dear can be left alone.
    --- merged: Apr 21, 2012 9:51 PM ---
    Spouse: 'I don't do feelings.'
    Me: ':confused: :('
     
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  20. mandy

    mandy Vertical

    Location:
    South Africa
    wow! How perfect! 'cos i can't throw pity parties anywhere else cos i don't want people to think i'm weak, but right now, i wanted to go to my fave karaoke bar tonight without healer and he didnt mind at all, but my mother just made me feel so dam guilty about going to a "drinking place" alone, that I decided to stay and now I sulk!!! :-(