Should I cheat on my wife?

swinger newbs are teh funnay.

Lordeden Plan9 Borla have pretty much said it all. bad idea. You never put this kind of shit into your professional or family circles.

Also, the more you try to force it and/or expect it, the less likely it will be that everyone walks away feeling ok.

Your wife still sounds like she's only doing it for you. That's not an open marriage, it's just a tactic for her to get you off of her case. If she already had a mental issue keeping her from having sex with you, do you REALLY think having her watch you fuck another chick is gonna break that barrier?

All that's left to say is good luck.

 

Hey, maybe this will be the one time when this sort of thing works.

 

Take pictures!

 

Pure supposition here.

Suppose she is not "done for" in the sex department but is simply done with having sex with you?
Suppose she wants to have sex with someone other than you?
Someone she already has her sights on.
Someone she hasn't met yet.
Possibly someone she's already having sex with.
Suppose her consenting, first to you having extramarital strange and second, to going so far to arrange it, has nothing to do with her desire to control "who" you see?
Suppose her strategy is to justify an extramarital affair of her own by seeing to it that you are the one who cracks open the door first?
Or suppose your wife has sexual proclivities you know nothing about? Wants a threesome. Wants to watch. Wants a woman.

Reason alerts me to the very real possibility that she has ulterior motives.

Your scenario, as it appears to be playing out , is not reasonably indicative of a wife who has lost her sex drive yet desires above all else to hold on to her husband by any means necessary outside of having marital sex with him herself. That wife, IMO, would be far more likely to want to turn a blind eye to what she knows is the inevitable consequence of her shutting him out sexually.

Of course, every couple and relationship is different. She may be on the up and up and if she is, I doubt she has thought about the ways in which her plan could backfire. It's your responsibility to point those ways out to her. If in fact your main concern is your marriage. Only you know if it's more important than getting your dick wet regardless of how it all comes about or the consequences.

 

I'm way too grumpy to read back...

Is the OP ok with his wife wanting to fuck another man if she wanted to? I know plenty of couples where the man is cool with another woman but once a man is brought "up" all hell breaks loose. Fair is Fair is Fair...

well, it's fair if you're, you know... honest.

 

what i dont understand is why dont you just pick up a chick at a bar and get your rocks off first before you introduce someone you both know. or better yet hire a prostitute. essentially, you're pay for them to go away.

 

I believe he has made up his mind as to what he will be doing.

Joniemack has made some astute observations that I think need to be addressed. If his wife has cheated on him before all of this has happened, it's possible that she has no interest in sleeping with him. Either her needs are already been met or she feels guilty and not worthy of being intimate. If she "allows" him to have an affair then it could alleviate her guilt.

 

I was just scanning down the forum list, and I swear, I thought I saw that Happy Posting Bot had the last post in this thread. Scared the shit outta me.

/threadjack

 

....Cheaters never prosper, these old saying are usually based in truth.

 

Do me a favor and call the Savage Lovecast and ask Dan for some advice. I really want to hear his take on it.
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At this moment, your marriage is a game of Jenga with all the middle pieces gone, and it's your turn. Even if you manage to pull it off, your wife is going to kick the table. I still say the best thing for your marriage is for you to convince her to fuck at least one other guy and see where it takes the two of you.

 

It's certainly no worse an option than dinner and whatever with the wife's slutty co-worker.

 

Reminds me of an old commercial for some toy or game when I was a kid.
The line was "Very sneaky sis....."
What the hell was that from?

Anyway I think you might be onto something here.

 

Is it me or is this progressing more quickly than it should?

Maybe you're forcing this more than it should be. I agree with everyone saying that some communication should be established. With it being someone she knows, in her workplace, seems likes its meeting your needs by something that will create problems for her. I commend you for your honesty with your wife.

I'm not really against the whole situation as long as that street can go both ways for you. If you introduce someone for your needs, she can introduce someone for her needs. Have you looked at local swinger clubs? Have you exhausted every possible option that could/can occur without creating a variable shit storm? What about a second opinion on what her doctor said to her?

 

I'm not sure what I want to watch most - the video of the evening or the video of the aftermath.

I know. I'm bad.

(In an effort to make myself look better, I'd suggest telling your wife that you don't feel comfortable with this (even if you do). It's like a Get Out Of Jail Free Card. You can start again.)

Psst ... or videos.

 

As much as I'm for a good outcome, I'll admit that I find the dynamics mentally delicious. Please keep us posted fiddlebone.

 

You know what's gonna be awkward...

The day after when the woman can't even look at his wife because she didn't like what he gave her.

This has divorce written all over it. :shrug:

 

So many posts and suggestions, but have you decided to do anything to correct your problem? Ignoring it is the worst response, in many peoples opinion. Anyhow, life is too short to be that unhappy with your spouse.

What's up???