sex toys.

1. your girlfriends masturbate. and they probably think of other men while they're doing it.
2. it doesn't mean they don't love you and love you in bed.
3. again, it's not about you. why is that so hard to understand?

 

*looks at wedding ring on finger, curses the heavens, sheds single tear*



Back on topic, I wouldn't mind if my old lady was into sex toys, because it would be indicative that she's at least thinking about sex.

The last time I can positively confirm that she entertained a sexual thought was about nine months before my daughter was born...

...which would have been around April... of 2005...

*sheds another tear*

 

That thing goes on your finger, right? You keep making it sound like it goes... uh... somewhere else. Like a tiny metal tourniquet.

 

Quoted and bolded for emphasis. My fiance has several sex toys to aid in her masterbation, it has NOTHING to do with me.

That's because you are still assuming that a woman masterbating has anything to do with her SO's ability to satisfy.
Guess what? It has nothing to do with the guy. At all. I am perfectly able to "satisfy my woman" in our love life and she satisfies me, but sometimes I still have a wank, and sometimes she still uses her toys.
--- merged: May 8, 2012 at 1:13 PM ---

EXACTLY.
I work shifts. Sometimes I dont get home until 10pm, and often not in the mood for sex right after work (I'm more intersted in a shower and dinner than sex). Sometimes I work the overnight. Sure I might be ready to go at 6am, she however is asleep (not saying wakeups never happen but they are the exception) and conversely when she's ready to go in the evening, I'm ready to go... to work.
These things happen in long-term relationships. Sometimes one person wants a good sexing and the other cant, or doesnt.

 

I'm reminded of a quote by Katt Williams. It was aimed at getting head, but I think the intent works out pretty well to why I masturbate most of the time.

"Listen ladies...some of you think head is a pussy replacement...you cant replace pussy! Pussy is like a oven in the kitchen...put in some ham...some vegetables...and maybe some bread and 1 hour and 30 mins later you got a full meal. But head is like a microwave cause a nigga aint always got 1 hour and 30 min to be messin with your ass...sometimes we need a hotpocket in 30 sec....BING THERE WE GO."

 

I think those dolls are a bit weird to me to be honest and I assume from a financial point of view they are prohibitively expensive. Fleshlight though? I wouldn't care.

I think you are feeling it as an issue of you potentially being inadequate. Perhaps you are unavailable, schedules too busy, too tired for the full meal deal, stressed and just want quick relief without the bells and whistles.. I don't think many people would say masturbation was preferable to sex under most circumstances but sometimes it just may be what they have room for in their lives at the particular moment. Aside from all of this, fulfilling a need with an object vs finding someone to take your spot does not seem like something to get all worked up about.

 

1 - I wouldn't be happy with that. If they are going must do it, they should least have the decency to think about a generic man rather than a real one who isnt me.

Anyway, I don't believe any of my girlfriends owned sex toys... that's all I am saying. They might have pleasured themselves manually, if I wasn't available or if I was away at work for the week, but I don't want to think about it and I don't want to know about it.

 

The 69th Commandment: Thou Shalt Have No Other Sex Gods But Me.

 

This thread has become completely ridiculous.

If you don't like sex toys, and don't want your girlfriends to use them, fine, great, whatever. I'm tired of trying to argue with a brick wall. But coming into a thread that's SPECIFICALLY ABOUT SEX TOYS in order to complain about them is silly, arrogant, and pointless. If you really feel that strongly about it, go start another thread.

 

I didn't say I "didnt like" sex toys... just Ive never dated a girl who owned a magic rabbit.

But if you want to talk about them, I have dated a couple of people who owned handcuffs. I didnt like using them because I was worried it might hurt her if she turned at the wrong angle or mark her wrists, but I went along with it a few times for her sake. As you can see I am not selfish at all and am willing to experiment with more extreme things to satisfy my partner.

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If I was going to use a sex toy, I think I'd quite like to wear my goalie gloves during sex... it would just be an interesting feeling. But Ive never asked anyone if they minded because they might think it was weird.
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Well, I wouldnt use "God" in that term. But isnt that what everyone likes to think?

And maybe it isnt true... but you'd like to be able to imagine thats how your partner feels about you and for them not to spoil it wouldnt you? I would at least.

 

You are only lying to yourself now.

Either that, or you have a very limited sex drive.

 

This, SF, is why you must rid yourself now of the illusion that your thought processes characterize that which is 'normal' in the larger world.
Most men get turned on by the thought of their partner masturbating, fantasizing, being so horny that they would stuff a vinyl penis up their coochie.
Clamming up into a shell of disgust and rejection is not usually the first response.

 

Since this poor thread on such an awesome topic is heading dangerously toward the galactic black hole that sucked in our dearly ventilated Trayvon Martin and other fine-fine debate masterpieces, I'm going to go out on a limb and post some actual relevant content in a vain effort to steer it back:

A few months ago I bought the famous Lelo Pleasure Object for my current girlfriend to enjoy when she's in the mood for a toe curling action, such as when she's got her mouth full of me or when I'm gone on those endlessly boring business trips (or, you know, before an Old School-style surprise gangbang, whatever). The problem: she doesn't really like sex toys and isn't really willing to give it a chance. Normally I'd be all "...the hell?! Do you know how much ammo I could have bought instead? That thing is the friggin' Bentley of vibrators, woman. Out of all the toys mentioned in a TFP thread, it was the one with the highest reviews on Adam & Eve! Give it a chance! One lady said it's like fucking Prince!" but honestly, I'm kinda discouraged by her unwillingness to get down with dicks of the inanimate variety. I've tried to make it part of the game, something she can do for me (foreplay) to distract her from the "he's expecting me to get off" awkwardness and I've explained to her that it's cool if all she wants are her fingers and my dick, but I'm just a little more of a freak than most and would like her to try new things. Whether or not this means my NFA forget-sex-toys-give-me-the-penis-now woman is somehow related to Strange Famous has yet to be determined, but I've got the cyanide pill prepped just in case.

I shall keep pressing the issue. If nothing else, I'm going to get my money's worth. *rimshot* Can't sell the damn thing on E-Bay, now can I?

TL;DR: There's a loaded 12 gauge shotgun and a really expensive vibrator under the bed. The vibrator has been used as often as the 12 gauge: never.

 

To be honest, I am not a huge fan of many vibrators...although I do have this little blue generic one that I have to admit I've grown very fond of recently. Guess I just needed to find the right toy.
Never liked traditional dildos much, although I've been known to drag out the one I have on occasion, as well...particularly since I've been feeling a little randy lately and have more free (alone) time on my hands these last couple of weeks.
I would never turn down a dick attached to someone I like, love or simply exchange lust with for a vibrator, but even when I am with someone on a steady basis, sometimes I just like to masturbate. Masturbation alone is a different sort of animal. It is separate from your sex life with your partner, except when it isn't, heh heh. Whether someone uses a device to help themselves along, you would think, would be irrelevant. For lack of batteries or 'quiet time' my fingers will work just fine.

 

...I've got some cyanide pills leftover from my last post.

 

You're such a good sport, Cynth.