sex toys.

And THAT is why you're constantly surprised when boatloads of people disagree with you. You think that you represent the center of the bell curve when, in fact, you represent an end.

I think that most women would be most upset about the loss of storage space with a Real Doll. And that most couldn't care less about a fleshlight. They realize that their male partners are going to masturbate and so long as they're not staining the rugs or doing it in front of company, it's not that big a deal.

Which is pretty much how most men feel, with the obvious addition that most men would like to watch their women.

 

No, I think what you need to understand is that your thinking is in the minority. Your thinking. I have lived a pretty average life around lots of average people and you are the only person I've ever heard say the things that you do. The only one. Get this through your head, if you are being straight up with us, then you are an odd duck. Nothing wrong with that. But it is not only impolite but also extremely egotistical to purport that the world conforms largely to your worldview rather than the other way around.

 

So I am the *only* person who would be put out if a partner was using sex toys?

Do you really believe it when you type that??

 

You're not the only person who would be put out, no.

But you seem to be the in the clear minority here, and you seem to have an awfully difficult time explaining why it upsets you so much. That fact leads the rest of us to believe it's based on some nonspecific "ick" you have with the notion of a woman getting off without a man (which is horribly misogynist) or about your own insecurities (which should have nothing to do with your SO masturbating) or you have issues with masturbation in general.

We're hopefully trying to explain why masturbation while you're in a relationship is perfectly normal and healthy and there's no reason to get all flustered about it. Masturbation makes people happy, and reflects nothing at all about you or her feelings for you. Don't you want your girlfriend to be happy? That's all we're saying.
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I find that astonishingly hard to believe, but it's awesome if it's true.

 

I have no issue with some getting themselves off. Whether male or female... I think EVERYONE does it when they single.

But sex with a person is always (in my experience anyway) better than having a wank.

So when you have a partner, why would you need to do it yourself? Thats all I'm saying.

I don't own any sex toys and if I have a girlfriend I only resort to having a wank if she isnt up for sex on a certain day. if we get home from work at different times it isnt unreasonable to wait until the other person is back and has had a chance to eat his dinner before demanding it, is it?

 

You do understand the difference between "one other person" and "the majority", don't you? They're mutually exclusive.

 

Most people who post in a discussion about sex toys on this website might not agree with me. The fact that someone even looks at the thread means they have an interest.

When I say most people feel like me I am talking about the real majority, not the majority of people on the TFP browsing sex topics.

 

I didn't say you were the only one. I am objecting to your assertion that your ideas are mainstream.

 

For the same reason you do it when you don't have a partner. It's fun and enjoyable. It has nothing to do with being satisfied with the other person in my life. You seem to have a lot of needs and expectations of the women in your life.

 

I just told my boyfriend that I was getting rid of my vibrator and calling him every single time I want sex now.

He laughed at me. And then got a really worried look on his face.

 

Well if my girlfriend gave me that I would perfectly happy with it and to be honest I think she'd soon forget about her magic rabbit.
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I just would PREFER them to prefer me to a machine. That might be unrealistic (depending on the girl - but giving that she is dating a man with my looks to start with she must be open minded) but I dont think its unreasonable.

 

Right. I was in a relationship where we never, ever said no to sex. One of us wanted it, bam. It got very repetitive, and very boring. It was also really time consuming.

Furthermore, as I believe several people have stated, if not in this thread, then in older ones: sometimes, you do not want to worry about how the other person feels. You do not want to worry about getting them off, or conversely, you don't want them to worry about getting you off.

 

It's not about you. And it is, very unreasonable. You are so wrapped in your own needs you can't see straight.

 

Why is it that whenever I read this thread, I'm reminded of that quote, "those who forget the past are doomed to repeat it"

 

Is this the place where I post a picture of my wife with her vibrator?

800cc engine on hers

The dealer told her that an inline 4 would have less vibration. Her response was "Why the hell would I want that?". The salesman turned about the same color as above.

I'm not sure why I'd care about her use of sex toys. She used them before we got married.

 

Mr Purple and I have a great relationship because he always gets me off It's all about me

I have used him in the company of another man, and it was great However, I did worry too much about the guy getting off It was awesome, don't get me wrong, but I like my one on one time better with Mr Purple

 

I accept if you don't satisfy your woman she might need one of these things but that's never the case for me so there is just no requirment