Sex times

Stats = meh. There are many factors to scew the numbers.

Yesterday my libido went a lttle crazy. In the morning I maturbated twice. I made love with my wife late last night, and I lasted about five minutes. I thought that the third time in 14 hours would mean prolonged intercourse, obviously I was wrong. The good news is the sex was mutually straight-to-the-point.

OTOH there are times when I haven't touched my wife for weeks and haven't masturbated in 4-5 days, but I last for 20+ minutes during vigorous intercourse.

Stats = meh.

 

@Katia ~If you show me yours I'll show you mine

 

Don't knock scientists, love. We're thorough and repeatable.

 

I can tell you that after a month of dry spell, the old Cayvmann lasted about a minute... Oh well, with practice I might break 2 minutes one day.

 

Thorough and repeatable would be fine for a sex at rigor mortis scientific study.

I think we should chuck all that and go for the qualitative instead of the quantitative.

 

I'd like to think there's room for a little of both, sweetheart.

One should never get so caught up in the destination that one forgets to enjoy the journey.

And, by the way, I've found that repeatability keeps them coming back for more, love.

 

I wonder if I was trying to have as many orgasms as fast as possible, if I would be around that rate.
Except when you are on anti-depressants. That was kind of weird when you had been very consistent for years, yet it took you twice as long all of a sudden.

Some of the states seem a little low, but I'm not sure if they told people what positions to use, to focus on their pleasure, or if they were to last as long as possible? Maybe they wanted to see how fast guys could get off?

 

Well being single now, I don't have any guaranteed sexytime, so when I get it, I tend to make it last. I make sure not to stoop - I only go for women that I'm attracted to (note I say specifically women that I'm attracted to - not adhering to any Hollywood social norms or being superficial, women that just feel right in personality and a sort of warmth, with a wide range of physical characteristics). My most recent encounter was only here in Hawaii on vacation, and I watched the clock - we made out for maybe 25 minutes, reaching 2nd and 3rd base, then I went down on her for about 15 minutes or so (love doing that), and then had long slow sex for about 30 minutes. It altogether lasted from almost 2am to a little after 3am. Then we woke up at 11:00am, sort of mutually agreed to both go use some mouthwash, and then had nice morning sex. Then we went to the mall all day, came back to my apartment for a quickie, and then I took her to the airport and she went back to the Great White North (Canuck-Land). Wonderful experience overall though.

 

Pretty damned good, I'd say.

My wife is multiorgasmic. Sometimes it makes me wonder how much of a role I play in her Os--Could just any guy leave her legless?--I have take her word that she's only interested in making love with me (fantasies aside). Actual intercourse time isn't that important, but I do love to get her off 2-3 times before we ever get to intercourse.

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The sex study from the early '50s that I previusly mentioned included some interesting comments. The author(s) specifically said that men shouldn't feel inadequate about lasting 6-7 minutes on average during sexual intercourse because that appears to be how the male reproductive system is designed to work. It went on to say men also shouldn't worry about being one-and-done with some recovery time needed before achieving another erection.

Several things about that study, at least how the author(s) present the findings, strike me as noteworthy.

--One is it directly addresses male feelings of inadequacy, and some of the issues that give men those feelings, two of which are staying power and the need for downtime.*

--Another is many early books on sex studies present findings only, this one did so and spoke directly the reader(s).

--It was done in the early '50s. From what I can tell, in the '50s the subject of human sexuality was still pretty much off limits, even in the scientific community.

Now for the bad news. I very stupidly did not buy the book, and I can't remember the name of the book. IIRC, it was a study conducted in the UK (yes, we've all heard jokes about Brits being uptight regarding sex, but that stereotype has been beaten to death, isn't true, and my wife is a transplanted Brit).

* It also addresses penis size, but that topic has been covered here many times in many threads, and has nothing to do with the thread topic "Sex times."

 

Our intercourse doesn't need to last that long. Ten minutes on average sounds about right, but we consider intercourse to be a part of lovemaking. I consider my lucky in that I can get my wife quivering and secreting with just touching and kissing the right places. And that doesn't include nipple play, direct manual stimulation of the vagina and/or clitoris, and oral sex (any of which can bring her to climax several times before we ever get to intercourse).

If the stars align correctly and we have a marathon intercourse, that's great. If not, we don't worry about it, we can always try again another time (practice, practice, practice ).

Which leads me to this thought. Foreplay can affect how long a guy lasts during intercourse. In my experience longer and more involved foreplay (which we both very much enjoy) leads to a more intense and sensitive erection, which means once intercourse starts, the more likely I am to climax sooner. Thanfully not always. There are times when I have to tell/warn my wife that slowing down, or even interrupting intercourse for some alternative stimulation for her, isn't going to work. The good news is she can usually orgasm, simultaneously or immediately after, in response to my orgasm.

That's natures cruel joke on humankind. Foreplay benefits the female, but can overstimulate the male. Definately a cruel joke.

I should clarify something because some of my posts in this thread contradict some of my posts in other threads. Our once smoking hot sex life has slowed down over the years, much so over the past couple of years.

Edit--Let's not forget one thing (please forgive my vulgarity, which I usually try to keep to a minimum), there are times when a hard, fast passionate fuck is what both partners want and need. And I don't mean a quickie due to time restraints.

 

Nice to know we have low expectations in Colorado.

 

Night is a good time.

 

Long time if its winter in Alaska.

 

Or perhaps, "Can we move it along, dear? I'm late for an appointment."