Sex Parties

My "like" was definitely NOT an invitation. Not that you're not cute, it's a plumbing issue (and the cardigans)

 

Wow, if grumpyolddude moved to Canada and married Baraka_Guru, your couple name would totally be Grumpy_Guru.

 

One night hanging out with you and drinking a whole bunch of Bombay Sapphire? Can't make no promises, mate.

In either direction.

 

I am sure you two could break the ice out on Hanlan's Point at the clothing optional beach.

 

Boy these posts can way off topic sometimes LOL

These parties do exist!! In Canada, we also have sex clubs too. They are certainly not for everyone, but for those people who like to either watch, be watched or swap partners these events are very hot. They are a place where fantasies come true and new ones formed free of judgement. It's true that not everyone there is Barbie or Ken, but if you are truly turned on by human sexuality and how diverse it can be then you can be there and enjoy yourself for what it is.

My SO and I were just at a sex club in Toronto this past weekend. It was fabulous! We were just visiting, but we got a weekend pass. It was in an old house with an outdoor area and pool - it was a beautiful weekend to be naked by the pool and "play." We are fit and attractive and certainly there were others there who we would not consider as our cup of tea, but there were also plenty of other delightfully sexy people there. It is liberating and intoxicating to be so open sexually...I love to watch and be watched. It was a little bit hard to go back to the public norm and not be able to touch each other sexually as freely as you can in that environment.

We have yet to go to a private sex party, but it is on our list of things to do together...maybe I will have to organize my own.

 

yea i have been to a sex club here as well. while it's not the one you went to ( i know which one you went to i heard it is a fun place) it was fun and interesting at the same time lol.

 

They spark my intrest but proablly not my wifes

 

Mmm, as amusing as it would be to have a room full of a consenting adults going at it... couple of issues you never hear anybody talk about:

- The amount of alcohol consumed leading up to the event would cause a lot of naked sweaty people to be running to the bathroom. Little worse than sex with a full bladder. And don't be the person to come back from the bathroom with TP stuck to your ass. These body functions aren't super sexy.
- "Stop blowing loads on my couch!" You'd have to put down throw-away blankets and towels everywhere. Totally gonna get sweat and spit and body fluids and lube and booze all over everything. I can only imagine the smell the next day. And those surprise messes you find a week later.
- Speaking of smell, the one person that busts ass in the middle of the room mid-stroke and basically kills the mood for everyone with sulfur stank.
- Make sure that you're lining up the old short sword with the right woman. I'd imagine there's been a couple of instances where there's a surprise "Wait, who am I in?" Granted, it depends on the type of party, but it's a good idea to confirm the face with the ass before you go plunging in.
- Football play-style thought process behind planning what you're going to do. If I'm sloppy drunk, I'm probably only gonna get two shots before I pass out. It's like gaming a long USPSA stage... you plan who you wanna get first with what before you transition to the big finish. *beeper noise*
- The incredibly grating pleasure noises from that one relatively normal couple. Incessant banshee moaning. Baby talk. Comically abusive language.
- What do you do after the x hours of hot-hot fuck action? Pass out? Order pizza? Everybody don a Snuggie and flop on the sectional for some Netflix? You're still probably way drunk. If people aren't falling asleep, this is probably the place where the jokes start. I'd be down with that. I love jokes.

So, yeah, seems like a lot of work.

On a related note, has anybody come across a "Best Bungles During an Orgy" page anywhere? That's gotta be a great read. *stares at Google tab*

 

Just want to comment on your first point...I don't do drunk sex personally. I need to be present in the experience. It's been my experience that at these functions people are not all pissed up. If a person needs to be to get into it, then perhaps the scene isn't for him or her.

Certainly the logistics of dealing with the sex "mess" from multiple people is a tough one. At sex clubs, everthing is vinyl and they provide towels and antibacterial wipes, but you could always bring your own.

 

As MySugarCane's partner-in-crime, I wanted to throw in my two bits...

There were no obviously drunk people running around either times we went out to a sex club. I don't doubt that some people get a little tipsy to ditch their inhibitions, but I didn't notice it.

Second, the staff kept things very clean, and people cleaned up after themselves. They also had LOTS of clean towels in every room. I have no idea how many we went through, but it was quite a few. What can I say... MySugarCane is fairly juicy.

We didn't experience the sword/hole situation you describe, or anything close to it. In the most recent experience in Toronto, I don't think we had anyone within arms reach any time we were getting busy. In our first experience, we did have a couple get up on the same "table" we were on, and ask very nicely if they could join us. The Toronto club seemed to very much be a "see and be seen" club, rather than an interaction with new friends club. Each one seems to have their own style.

We actually spent about 5 hours at the Toronto club the first day. Lots of sun-tanning nude, some screwing and playing in between going for a swim. And we actually did order out for food. . I think it was a Greek platter though, not pizza...

All in all, it was a very erotic experience, both times. Personally, I forget other people are watching pretty easily, and lose myself in MySugarCane's reactions. Being watched doesn't turn me on particularly, but I do enjoy watching. I also enjoyed the interactions with the other couple in our first experience.

It's definitely not for everyone... In Toronto we saw a few people who really didn't seem to be enjoying their experience.

 

How so?

I mean, if you're already at the point where your pants are off and you're slapping skin... might as well keep going and take off when you're done.

 

You'd think so, wouldn't you? But there was one couple there our first afternoon who was obviously uncomfortable with the situation, and she refused to get fully naked much to her partner's dismay. And the second evening, there was a very attractive young lady (whose breasts MySugarCane wanted to explore) whose partner seemed very uncomfortable with getting funky in front of anyone else. I don't understand why these people were there, but maybe they were still getting used to the idea.

 

the_jazz never mentioned being in the infantry before......

 

I could not imagine what 7 deployments and 20 years of screaming would have done to the_jazz. He'd be all eyeballs and teeth.

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Back on topic:

I guess there have to be some cold feet at sex parties. Sometimes your eyes are bigger than their crotch... er, something. That old saying.

If you just wanted to show up and fuck your partner in front of others, do you wear a hat that says: "Just here for the audience" or what?

Honestly, I'd rather find a cool couple to hang out with, watch TeeVee, get crunk and take turns fucking each others' wives.

A lot less moving parts (*rimshot*) and probably a lot less awkward than sticking your dick in a total stranger.

 

Well, my first expe

Well, my first "multi-partner" sexual experience was also with MySugarCane, and I think we kind of envisioned it happening the way you described. But it didn't go that way, and ended up being much more awkward than either of our sex club experiences.

 

Oh, I can see that. The amount of time and effort invested in cultivating that kind of relationship is probably a lot more than just showing up at a fuck shack and browsing for something that doesn't look like it last saw the inside of a gym when it was in high school phys. ed. As a guy that's probably only going to experience the "boring old one-on-one" in his life, I'm totally blowing smoke here. That and I've never been with a girl that wasn't super territorial about my cock. Honestly, I think a lot of my relationships would have worked out better if we'd just taken a week off to fuck other people.

Ya know, instead of them doing it behind my back.

 

I find it hard to believe this would be anything but healthy (apart from the obvious STI risks).

 

Hey, it seriously cannot be any worse than the crash-and-burn bullshit associated with partners' wandering hearts and vaginas, amirite?

I mean, you can't really fix the mental part, the loyalty part. But the tingling in the loins? You can fix that. If letting my current girlfriend fuck some other dude once every five years would magically seal the deal for the rest of my life and I'd never have to worry about her doing anything else remotely shady, I'd gladly let old boy rail her right nasty. Emo arguments and packing my possessions into trash bags... huge pain in the ass.

You know what I'm tired of? Starting over. You know what I'm sure of? I can't, don't and won't provide everything my current partner needs--hell, ANY partner--and I'm finally mature enough to accept it. Having needs and communicating them? A Big Deal. Or so I've learned from this forum.

So, whatever... sex parties. If that's the kind of thing that it takes for a couple to stay happy with monogamy, more power to them. At least they're not lying to themselves and at least they're not sitting at home in quiet desperation talking about a lack of blowjobs or whatever. All "Life is too short."

Based on what I read here / have seen in meat space, it seems like the modern married male is quite often the most unhealthy one: quiet desperation.

 

Oh man, I need to spend more time here... I just started scrolling up the thread to look for user "Monogamy"

A-DOY!