same ol same ol. maybe NSFW

I'm a naive virgin and all, but something tells me that you just don't go to said sex clubs if you're a part of "certain societies." Republicans are totally exempt, of course.

 

Plan9 -- I wasn't suggesting they go to a sex club, but merely putting the information out there in case it was needed later. Certainly, if the woman is just now experimenting with toys and masturbation, then throwing her into a meat market on steroids isn't going to help the cause. As far as admitting to your partner that you're a kinky fuck..well yeah, that's kind of what I was getting at when I said to sit down with the papers and just talk sex, fantasies, dislikes etc. You start mild, then work up so that you don't just come out with the whole "I want to wear your pantyhose to work and masturbate in them." It's just a way to open the dialogue and gives the parties something to focus on when they're a bit nervous (pencil, paper, doodles whatever).

As far as privacy and discretion, it's rather simple. Those people are at the clubs so if they were to say anything, well, they kind of out themselves too. Pictures/cameras/camcorders etc are usually not allowed and there is usually some sort of confidentiality agreement clause in the membership application. While it's usually pretty weak and won't hold much weight in a court room, it's just an added measure to help people understand that discretion is the top priority of these establishments. You'll find people from all walks of life, including very influential people involved in law, health, politics etc.

 

I think im going to try the questions and answers this weekend.

 

What I meant is the circle of family and friends...
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We never had been to even strip clubs... which obviously we are very much interested in
I just sometimes wish I have friends with whom I or we could go

 

I had some friends that were going (been 2 or 3 months ago) asked me if I wanted to go and I said sure we had to.go by the house sp I could get my wife and they looked at me like I was stupid. I told them if I was going then so was she. I find it pointless to go without her.

 

Just out of curiosity, how many of you guys that aren't getting it on the regular only touch your wives in a sexual manner? If you're only touching, caressing, cuddling, hugging, kissing your girl because you want dance like a beached humpback, then it's possible that there's a psychological disconnect going on. It's just a thought. Instead of pressing your tommy knocker into her ass cheeks when you roll over in bed, try just cuddling and snuggling up and talk about normal shit. It may not get you laid that night, but it may help to show her that you see her as more than just a depository.

 

Same here
I even found few strip clubs that are not just "gentlemen's club". I saw good reviews by ladies. Would love to go as couples..... Looks like we need a separate thread

 

this is exactly the kind of the things my wife and i have talked about. our sex is fine (when im home, and she isnt pregnant), but we both are a little curious about opening up the relationship a little... maybe not to others, but at least to each other at the moment! things have accidently gotten a little routine and checklist oriented, and thats not what either of us want. we have briefly discussed some extremes of where we want things to go, but i think we are gonna start with just getting some play time again. Strip Clubs/Dance clubs, see how we like the idea of seeing each other with other people... all the while getting back into what attracted us toeach other in the first place... we hope! LOL

 

Are strippers in the job by force? Like pimps, violence, abduction, abuse involved? I ask because if that is the case I would never step in to one ...

 

uhh..

no.

Unless you're in the ghetto and the floor is sticky.

Strippers have to pay a certain percentage of their take to the club at the end of the night, which I guess could be seen as prostitution, but in the normal sense of thinking no. If you're dropping serious cash, you may get propositioned but just having a lap dance or two isn't going to cause that action. Most of the time, the strippers will be way more attentive to women than men. Think about it, they deal with dirty men all night long, they aren't really interested in what you're saying, they're just playing a part to get you to pull the wallet out again.

Which brings me to the double standards of strip clubs.. male strippers can be fondled, sucked, groped etc, but you touch a female stripper and your ass is booted out (and more depending on the bouncers). Doesn't bother me that much since I'm not really interested in fondling random strippers, it's just different ends of the spectrum that it's odd.

and for the record, since I'm sure the_jazz will make a comment, yes, I've been to a male stripper revue with the wife. She goes to titty bars with me, and wanted me to go with her so I said sure. It wasn't that bad and it was kinda funny watching the ladies get all hot and bothered over cheesy music and dance moves.

 

That is pretty interesting and would be fun to try ...
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I never knew about male strippers and that they could be fondled by female clients... Wonder how the stripper could hold it though..... Also wonder why double standards... If strippers cant be fondled then do they fondle clients?

If I go to a strip club I would love her to go with me...

 

I'm sure not all male revues or strip clubs are like that. In fact, the one I went to wasn't, but there are many times where the women can do things to the strippers and it's ok. Most of those dudes are so used to it..it's just like dudes in porno. Strippers don't fondle clients..at least not where they can be seen. It's all dependent on the type of club you're in etc etc.

 

see the odd thing is that we cuddle, hold hands and have all kinds of effection twords each other and in no way do either one of us mean for it to lead to sex, if it does then the other one knows what the other is thinking. i have some questions im getting prepared to ask and answer with each other this weekend. any suggestions??

 

i think i can see the frustration in that post... make sure ur relaxed and not flustered when you address it, or the conversation will go nowhere fast...

 

Being in those "feel like an idiot" moments is what makes it fun. Keep investigating till you feel "routine" then go on to another that is a little out of your comfort zone. Being with your wife that long you should both be comfortable enough to laugh at each other. Married for 14 together for 20, it works for us and is getting better all the time.

 

well? any updates?

 

We did the question and answers. That seemed to open alot of doors and let to a all night conversation. Witch was good. Been cuddling more and trying to talk more and things seem better I ut no sex in 2 weeks. But with everything going on its ok. Thanks for asking

 

Hi, ralphie250

Cuddling more and talking more. Jolly good. All night conversation - even more than jolly good, IMO.
Take care, both