Parents' death - how old were you?

both of my parents are still alive, but my wifes dad died when we were 14 and her mom 8 years ago
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im sorry, you should have called

 

My parents are still living, but my husband's mom passed at 42 when he was 6 years old. It had a tremendous impact on him growing up, and that has spilled into the dynamics of our relationship due to who he had as parental figures after her death.

His older sister passed suddenly last year from a brain aneurysm at the age of 44. My husband is currently 31. It definitely puts in the fear that I could lose my husband much sooner than most expect, and also if we had children between now and then, they would be similar in age to him if something should happen. It's not a train of thought that ends lightly.

 

I'll be 58 in a few weeks. Ma is a happily demented 85, Dad is a less happily demented 94. I've been acting as the primary caregiver for the last few months (major support from PSWs) as Dad goes through end-stage cardio-pulminary disease. I'm spending the lions share of my time living away from my Lady, the Younglings, the Hound and the Furry Fellows. I'm actually in the attic I lived in when I first joined TFP back in the day.
I'll be sad but accepting when their time comes. They have been a love story since 1948, raised 6 kids and have a whole slew of grand/great grand kids. They've accomplished many things, have and give love and support to all us kids, our SOs and our ex SOs. They have seen me turn my life from that of a cog in a factory to a visual artist with his own voice. They are thrilled with my SO and her kids, and vitally interested in the maturation of my own 4 + my grandchildren. All is good.
I'll be glad to be back full time with my Lady come the day Dad passes, TBH. But all in the fullness of time.

 

My father passed 6 years ago. I was 23. I've done a lot with my adult life since then, and sometimes it's really strange to acknowledge the fact that he had no direct part in many of my major decisions and achievements in the years since. I just bought my first house, and I think I'm finally ready to ask my mom for some of his ashes to keep there.

 

My parents are both still alive and in great health, my dad is 79, 30 years older than me, I've got no idea how old my mom is, but she's younger than dad. I think alot about my relationship with my dad, which has improved muchly in the last decade. He's lived to see me hit my stride, (beautiful wife, great house, happily settled with a great job) and now whenever my mom says in exasperation "you are just like your father" I can appreciate it as a compliment, unlike when I was a teenager or in my twenties. I don't know how I'll feel when they finally start to get old, (we joke in my family that my Dad keeps getting younger every year - he retired at 55 and it added years to his life) I'm guessing it'll be unexpected. But we've said everything so I'm comforted by that.

 

I'm 38. My dad very abruptly shuffled off this mortal coil about 4 1/2 weeks ago. He was 60. And it sucks.

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My dad is 89 and doing pretty well. My mom died a couple of years ago when I was 57.

I still start to call my mom and talk to her about her granddaughter and great grandkid's latest exploits, then realize that I cannot.

My dad has lots of physical ailments; but is 100% mentally. Between his bad vision and lousy hearing, it's difficult to stay in touch from 1000 miles away; but it's always worthwhile when I do.

 

My mother died July 5th last year she was 97 and I was 68.........my dad died 14 months before @ 95........I am an orphan

xoxoxoxo

 

Still have both my parents and still have one surviving grand parent. I'll be 46 soon. I imagine I'll be quite a mess when one or both go.

 

My wife's father died a few weeks ago when she was 47 and he was 75.

Now only our mothers are left 79 and 76. It's going to be messy when they go.

 

I remember you posting that your parents were healthy, active, & independent.

 

I'm 48 and still waiting. LOL. Anyway they are both 78 and seem like they have a few years in them yet.