Males, being male and the aspects of it, good and bad

Well, it's not very nice. And I imagine if I were a Kampfsau, I wouldn't give a shit what you called me because I have an overly aggressive fuck-off attitude. I imagine I would come back with something like pig-faced troglodyte or something...however you might say that in German.
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oh, sorry. I'm going on three hours of sleep here. feeling giddy.

 

Well yeah, kinda stating the obvious. Insults are insulting.

Dickhead isn't very nice, he probably wouldn't care what you call him either, and he would just as likely find some creative way to insult you back.

@omega seems to see something in Kampfsau that got his inner Offended On Their Behalf persona out to make a pointless point.


PS: Commenting while sleep-deprived is fun. Seriously.

PPS: Pig-faced troglodyte translates to schweinsköpfiger Höhlenmensch.

 

Niiiize.

 

@omega seems to see something in Kampfsau that got his inner Offended On Their Behalf persona out to make a pointless point.

Because it's best just to stand idly by if it doesn't affect me personally.

 

Does misapplication of Martin Niemöller's philosophy ever qualify as entirely unnecessary and erroneous?

The answer to that is yes.

 

The person who is wrong doesn't get to make that decision.

 

So pointless, man.

Playing the Who Is Wittier game won't make your application of your values any less bullshit.

I'm stopping the nonsense here.

 

My values of equality are bullshit. You failed to oppress gay marriage. Now you have failed to oppress women. And my values are bullshit.

 

so, where is it that holding doors etc is patronizing to women? When did society forget about manners? As a man I have no worry over holding the door open for the person behind me, or allowing them to proceed ahead of me. Regardless of their gender. To me this is proper comportment and good manners. I agree with mixedmedia - I have no problems with someone being kind to me.

 

I hold doors open for everyone - men, women, children, dogs. But I understand the impulse that wanted to deconstruct all of those behaviors back in the 60s and 70s.

 

As a man I knew enough to stay out of the FFF thread .

I'll need to give some thought to what I like about being a man, mainly because most of my thoughts have been covered by others.

I don't like being expected to fall into pack mentality, namely the desire to be accepted. I've known many men who were basically good people on their own, but turned into dicks once in a group of guys. I graduated from high school over 30 years ago, and have no need for an alpha male leader and acceptance by the pack.

The lines between being strong & decisive, and being sensitive & respectful of women as equals are very blurred.

 

I think most people run off certain inner archetypes that they're either not fully conscious of, or don't want to admit. I think it applies to women and men. There may be certain parts of the archetype (which is different for each person) that don't sound mature enough, or may sound shallow. So, yes, a given woman may want the personality traits after she's selected out for a certain look or level of success. A certain guy might look for his favored traits after he's selected for a certain body type, or hair color.

I can honestly say that I've noticed that I'm far more drawn to dark-haired women than blondes. I wouldn't honestly say that hair color is important in a woman, but I've seen time and time again that I'm attracted to dark haired women. My wife has dark hair, btw. I also know that I'm attracted by certain personality traits in a woman (though not always constructively).

I think that it's easy for people to be swayed by these triggers, and it's difficult to anticipate them.

 

View: http://youtu.be/hc45-ptHMxo

 

I sometimes feel sorry for you guys. You're pretty much blamed for everything these days.

 

I spent most of my adult life completely failing at those things. I didn't have a career, or a car, or even a driver's license. I shared living spaces with a bunch of others. I fucked up and frequently showed emotion.

As a young adult, I avoided referring to myself as a "man". I thought as little as possible about the expectations I wasn't meeting.

But then, starting in my late 40s, through a little bit of cleverness and luck, I became a "success". I still haven't completely internalized this. I still don't think much about those expectations.