Kink test O.o

I assume it's nice to be tied up once and a while or tie someone up

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The trick is to have the gear ready to go at a moments notice.
Hook it to the bed posts and tuck it under the bed.
Include the rigging in the sex play so it isn't a chore.
Use leather cuffs instead of ropes if you have to.
Have her help, there is self rigging that can be done to speed up the process.
I know that it is complicated if one person is vanilla and the other has a kink that needs to be scratched to get off but then compromises need to be made or neither of you will be satisfied.

 

It wasn't really a time thing, we had ropes ready on the bedposts. It was a control thing. I didn't like a tied up dead fish or a tied up "victim". Sex is a back and forth thing, not a control thing in my brain. Plus it wasn't just rope play, that was just the beginning. It was slapping, punching, choking and other forms of "punishment". I *DO NOT* enjoy that. Striking someone I love (excluded is light spanking and light scratching) in the face while my dick is in them, is not my idea of a good time. Screaming "CHOKE ME CHOKE ME SLAP ME" during sex is not a turn on for me.

In the end we just were not compatible in the bedroom. I found out later when she let my two roommates double team her after we broke up, she asked to be tied down, "raped" then started blood play in the middle of the second session. That isn't my cup of tea.

I will gladly indulge in my partners kinks, but there is a line I'm not comfortable with. My kinks are very "solo", so it's hard for my partner to indulge in mine. Voyeurism is a hard kink to share unless they share it with you. That and one other kink I have is all I have past Vanilla stuff.

I couldn't be tied up. I tried it once and the minute I couldn't move, I had a panic attack. Panic attacks make my penis withdrawal from the world.

If you are into control or edging, rope play is great. You can control your partner's orgasms and you can have your way with them (with safety words and lines drawn BEFORE being tied down). I know a few people that love edging and love when their partner controls their orgasms. I don't think it's weird, it's just something I don't want to do myself.

 

That sounds truly terrifying! *shiver* I had a relationship for quite sometime where I was thrust into Domme role, and while there were aspects i LOVED overall I hated degradation play and his needs were just in no compatible with mine.

 

So, right. I mean to elaborate on this a bit, but got distracted. It's really pretty much as expected, though I think if I'd taken the same test in my 20s, certain scores would've been way higher. Some of the questions I had a bit of trouble with, because I very much separate my sex life from my outside-the-bedroom life. Like, yes, I like a bit of pain and a bit of degradation when your dick is inside me, but try that OUTSIDE the bedroom, and it's not going to go over well AT ALL.

The fact that "switch" is the highest is not surprising. I prefer being submissive in bed, but I can definitely take charge as the situation demands (I dated a guy who was surprised when I occasionally got more aggressive. Looking back, even though he wasn't really part of the BDSM scene, I think he wanted someone that was straight-up submissive all the time. That didn't really work for me.)

Voyeur/exhibition, not so much anymore. I think I've talked about Douchey McDoucheface being VERY into exhibition, which sorta killed it for me. We had sex in public a LOT, but the last time was in the middle of a park in broad daylight....several cars passed by, and I was just like, "nope...done with this." Also, public hottub sex just left me feeling dirty...and not in the good way.

Ah, now, rope bunny. I kinda love that term, to be honest. Another "formerly dated" story, there was a guy who was really into rope play, but we weren't together long enough to explore that together. He had a few books (illustrated!) that I was fascinated with, but we both agreed that a certain level of trust needed to be reached before we engaged in that kind of thing, and sadly (or not, depending on how you look at it), we never reached that point. Still, I delight in light bondage. NO HANDCUFFS (thank you, Gerald's Game), but scarves, or even just holding down my arms? Fuck yes.

Okay, where was I? Submissive, yep, hit on that. Experimentalist, yes, I'm willing to try quite a lot if it gets my partner off, though I do draw the line when I get uncomfortable...but really, I'm game for quite a bit. Ageplay? I think I scored higher on this one because I've always preferred significantly older men.




It's interesting, to me at least, to compare mine and Eden's scores, because, as he mentioned, his kinks are more solitary, and he is WAY more vanilla than me. I get off with a partner very easily, though, so we've made it work. Though I DO have a few ideas now, after reading both our scores...

 

Not a surprise.
If I were in better shape I might be more active, more “demanding” in a role-type way. I bet it would even be welcome. But I find I’m running out of gas due to my girth & low oxygen capacity. Which makes it frustrating to act pushy or callous, to play at using my partner as an anonymous means to satisfy desire or need.
At least I’ve learned to accept that I’m worth it, that my desire can be expressed and be satisfied. That’s a big deal, don’t you know?

86% Dominant
61% Master/Mistress
61% Voyeur
60% Primal (Hunter)
60% Degrader
56% Vanilla
56% Rigger
48% Owner
47% Ageplayer
44% Exhibitionist
43% Daddy/Mommy
26% Experimentalist
7% Boy/Girl
5% Non-monogamist
2% Sadist
1% Brat
1% Primal (Prey)
0% Rope bunny
0% Slave
0% Degradee
0% Submissive
0% Masochist
0% Pet
0% Switch

 

Fair enough, not really a fan of blood play myself.
Sometimes two people can't work things out no matter how hard they try, it's just the way it goes.
I've always wondered if the voyeur kink works if you do role play.
You guys rent a hotel then you sneak in to watch her to take a shower and masturbate, something like that.
Never tried it but always thought it would be interesting.
Of course, my fantasy involves a lot of ropes, hairbrushes, and sustained orgasms after that but you know...

 

Just because something isn't a kink on that specific test doesn't make it any less of one. This is just a random test I found on the internet, and thought it would be a fair conversation starter, it is by no means complete.

 

I just love sex...... kink or not, sex is fucking great. now I just need to get some

 

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I wouldn't think so.


Unless, of course, we're talking about me.


Then it's as pejorative as it gets!