is my long term relationship over?

I can see such a tshirt. An image of the guy, with the following wording:

Avoid His Name. He is majorly egotistical, totally in love with himself. He is facinated by his own penis, and masturbates excessively, usually while admiring himself in the mirror. Which explains his frequent failures to achieve and/or maintain a full erection, and his laziness as a lover. Do not attempt to have a relationship with His Name, not even casual sex, you will be extremely disappointed.

 

Oh im not going anywhere...

Update:

So on Tuesday my ex convinced me to meet her to go over our condo etc... well against all of your great advice I took a step backwards, one thing led to another and what do you know 20 minutes later after some important conversation we are having sex. Which was good but promptly followed by her hysterically crying and arguing about "us". I can't do it anymore. I am trying to move forward but until our living situation is all squared away it is impossible. I am also kinda starting something with that friend i have had for a very long time. Last night we had dinner and drinks out and then went back to her place for some wine. We didn't fool around or anything but talked about "us" and taking it slow. I am going away with her, her best friend and her boyfriend who has been my friend 15 years for New Years for 5 nights in a condo we rented way up in the Sierras.

 

So much this!
Never, ever, ever, sleep with your ex.

 

Correction:

Never sleep with your ex and think it's about more than just sex.

I've had some exes that can fuck a man stupid.

Only a retard would turn down that.

 

Actually I was thinking they would think it was more than just sex.
If you both understand that it's just sex, than go for it.

 

I offer this correction:

Never sleep with your ex under the assumption it's only about sex.

 

Hey, just as long as you're going into it honest.

Or, hell, dishonest but live in a different state.

 

Mentioning ex-sex......I'm a boxing fan, and assume that most of you have heard of Evander Holyfield.

He was separated from his wife during divorce proceedings. She visited him at training camp, & they had sex. Because this happened before X amount time had passed, she reestablished her right to half of his earnings. That turned out to be a $10,000,000.00 piece of ass.

 

Yep. When I got divorced they told me DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM until it's completely over - or it's like you're starting over at square one. Good for her.

 

yep i fucked up... im paying for it

 

I don't know how i got here, but my ex wanted to fuck me....I was scared, but said sure, it gave me some sense that I wasn't the bastard she said I was. I felt she was saying sorry I wasn't right or lied about you the judge and the world.

 

You are so on the money with this. Totally agree. Communication is everything.
I've been with my wife for 8 years now , 2 years married, and we understand that we need to communicate better. We know that most if not all of our arguments have been over a miscommunication of some sort. There's some yelling but we usually calm down because we know we have communication issues. We're working to resolve but agreeing on what the problem is is the first step and definitely makes life easier.

 

Been a long long time.

Little update...

Against some very sound advice from everyone here my then ex and I went to therapy twice a week for a few months then once a week for a few months then to once every other week. We both had some demons long before we were in each others lives so we worked on that and by improving our communication we improved our relationship. We have been really good these last 14 months or so. She changed for the better in that she stopped trying to control me and has become very supportive of my likes and interests. Everything is surprisingly good...

Update on the other girl I tried seeing for a bit... we had gone on a new year's vacation and things took a weird turn. She was distant and cold and kind of the textbook version of a cunt. Yet I still had no idea why I wanted her? Still to this day after she was weird during that trip I still want her. Her friend during that week even commented how she's never seen her like this? It is what it is. I didn't try and contact her after we got back. Apparently after things didn't work out between us we both went back to our ex's. My buddy whom also went on that trip with his GF told me a few weeks ago that she was vetting engaged and it has been on my mind ever since? What the fuck? Oddly enough while out at a dinner with some family friends this girls mom was there and instigated a conversation away from my GF with me she proceeded to ask me if I knew that her daughter was engaged and made a weird face and looked towards my GF. I'm sure shebeen we had dated for a brief time. Kind of odd? I'm not a creep but when I had to be in her town which was very close to me I liked the thought of being close to her? I'm just trying to gain some clarity on the situation