I could totally share a man.

I wish you'd all stop flirting with me.

I have enough trouble keeping one woman happy.

 

With ideal people for a thing, any thing would be desirable
[Long ago someone in TFP posted - love only multiplies - they were in polymory - great insights]

If you don't mind me asking, were you of same perception say 12 years ago? because if I go back 12 years ago with my current brains I would do a lot of things quite different

 

No, 12 years ago I was still mired in the disastrous consequences of my serial monogamy.
I'm not going back that way again. Not unless I meet a mr. right of superhero proportions. I'm just not into it.

 

I am pretty sure that I would be open to a polyamourous relationship. I have thought about it quite a bit, in fact.

I am 100% positive this would not be a situation in which my wife would want to take part (regardless of additional men or women).

 

I have a hard enough time keeping one happy, much less 2 or 3. Although it would be pretty neat though. Think about family Runnion's.

 

I've meaning to address this post. I have a shit life, shit attitude. Girlfriend cottoned on to the fact that I barely like her as a person and responded in kind. I can't keep myself together and I give into vices far too easily for no god damn good reason. I'm healthy, which is nice so I've got that going for me. But I pretty much hate every other aspect of my fucking existence right now. Which is like, Tuesday, for me.

But you. curiousbear, you have low self esteem. Lower than mine. Like, fuck, man. Shit, your self esteem is low. Who the fuck said that to you? Who told you you failed your parents? Was it your parents? Whoever it was, I want to find them. I want to square punch them in the jaw till their frontal lobe collides with their skull. No one. No one deserves to make you feel like you failed the people close to you. Even if it is you, curiousbear, I will straight up fuck your shit up for such low self esteem. You are beautiful, and I mean that.

 

Someday I will create a separate thread on my challenge. tfp wisdom could certainly help.... I am upset three days straight your "fucking shit punch" was very very comforting seriously thanks

 

I understand, but in my experience, just as many men as women irritate the shit out of me.
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I guess that's part of the thing. I like women and I like men who like women. Not just for sex, but really enjoy the company of women.
I don't like men who don't like women.

 

You make a good point. As has been posted many times, any successful poly relationship would require people with the right mindset.

I think that some men, I won't say most, would see a F+MM?? relationship as a sex contest, even though sex would only be one part of the relationship. I know that I tend to be protective and possessive, but not in a hostile and/or controlling way. I have no problem with the idea of my wife enjoying sex with another man or men, but the reality might be something entirely different. I'm guessing that quite a few women have had BFs split when they find out the women has other male sex partners.

There is also income, and the benefits of having disposable income. A Working Joe doing the best that he can would probably feel challenged by a man/men who is/are able to provide luxuries such as a nice house, new cars, exotic vacations, etc.

In short, the male ego can be fragile, even in men who seem confident and secure, and even with most things being equal among the men.

 

think about the rest of the time ralphie250 You just know it would be like this.....


DOM

 

Re: introversion - wouldn't sharing your spouse allow you MORE alone time, as she'd spend time with the other man as well?

I know that sharing a partner or being shared myself is not something that appeals to me. I don't feel like I have enough time in the day to keep up with conversation with the one partner, I can't imagine handling two separate ongoing conversations at the same time. I'd definitely mix a lot of things up.

 

In the situations I've witnessed, the love went 3 ways and everyone shared everyone else, in both figurative and sexual meaning. This scenario doesn't quite match what mixedmedia put out as her personal choice, but I think it's close enough to the overall concept to draw observations.

I would not mind sharing with the right people, and have been involved in more than 1 poly circle, at different times. One experience crashed and burned, and no one made it out with a positive outcome. The second was much much more healthy, as a direct result of the maturity and transparency everyone took.

Poly is not for the faint of heart - there is no where to hide, and you will find yourself having to face every fear, insecurity, and relationship fallacy if you have a hope of making it right. I actually learned more about myself and how to have successful relationships with anyone, under any context, within the experiences of poly.

I feel it is unrealistic to expect one single person to fulfill all of your physical, emotional, and sexual needs, and for someone else to think they can. How can that possibly be healthy. Sharing in my view helps provide a little bit more stability and not be as much of an energy suck.

 

Reminds me of ARTelevision (maybe former member, hasn't logged in since Jan) who was in a relationship with two women, if I recall properly. He would post pictures of himself and the others from time to time. Would love for him to add to this thread.....

 

Yes, this thing is not unheard of in tfp history.

 

I recall a couple of situations where some TFPers were in poly relationships. In one case, I seriously questioned the relationship because one partner came across a timid and submissive. If that person entered into and maintained the poly relationship of their own free will, fine. Not fine if their decision involved being pressured and 'molded.' The same could be said for anyone in a poly relationship.

 

This is something I would be into under the right circumstances. I'm pretty sure my wife would be less enthusiastic.

 

I'm pretty sure it would add to the number of people I would have to interact with on a daily basis, or at least hear about, so no...

 

It's not for everyone.

 

I like people in doses and that is huge upgrade from me hating most women and many men. I still have trouble with about 90% of the male and female population. I believe this goes hand-in-hand with my introversion.
I can't even seriously entertain this idea because there are so few people that I'd want to be this intimate with.

I live with two human males, one of whom is my spouse, the other, my young adult son. I live with two furry children ( 1 male 1 female). I'm happy with my living situation and don't think about changing it. It hasn't always been this way--not by a long shot--but I'm in a good head space so why would I change it?