how many times a week?

I think the correct answer for most people here is, "not enough!"

 

i would have to agree, but for some reason, its kinda picked up for me here lately. not sure why, but i aint complaining

 

After almost a month, my wife finally wants to do the deed this morning. Aaaaaand it's the first morning that there was no wood all month long... arghhhhhh

 

I wud like it at least every day but in reality she only wants it once :'( lol just my luck!

 

All right, more serious answer on my part:

In one of my past relationships, we had sex every day, around three or four times, sometimes more. So, about 21-30 times a week. That was absolutely fantastic at first, but let me tell you, it got to be a real drag. There were some HUGE issues with our relationship, but it was pretty much expected that sex would happen anyway. In trying to be "the mostly perfect girlfriend," I never said no, but it's really difficult to feel sexy, and actually be into sex, after someone's just spent the evening telling you how you're the exact opposite of hot.

Since then, I've been really careful about being too pushy about sex. Sure, I'd still like it every day, but that isn't always possible (especially when your boyfriend travels every week.) As long as I get some once or twice a week, it's all good. Anything more is a bonus.

 

I can't even comprehend 3-4 times a day, every day.
Back in HS with my first serious GF I think there were a few days where it happened 3 times.

Are we talking mostly quickies? Otherwise I wouldn't have enough time and energy to do anything else that day.

 

Once this week, so far

 

i wish my wife were like that

 

Nope. I mean, there were some quickies, but for the most part, not. He was 22, which certainly helped, and quite honestly, had the quickest "recovery" time I've ever seen...like, less than three minutes, most of the time. Like I said earlier, that was totally awesome at first, but it totally sucked after a while.

Ha, yeah, my sex drive is pretty ridiculous. Sometimes I wish it wasn't.

 

A 'pretty ridiculous sex drive' is a marvelous thing! Sometimes inconvenient but oh sweetie, do not ever wish it away.
Once a day unless I/my partner is sick/or out of town is optimal. I realize though as a guy gets older that may be wishing for too much. I've been a complete sexual animal since I was 16. It's actually gotten 'worse' as I've gotten older.

 

i just wish my wife had one

 

Once a day is good. And twice every other day on top of that is good. And all day long once or twice a month is particularly good. Don't have the recovery time I used to, but there are plenty of things I like doing while I wait for him to wake back up....

 

my wife needs some of whatever yall are taking lol

 

All mine needed was to start thinking of herself as a sexual being first and as a homemaker second.
Getting her attention did take drastic measures, though, and very high risk.

 

ditto. How / why is it so different between men & women? You would think the girls would like it just as much.

 

See, but we are are different. I'm pretty sure I like it more than many guys. There's been exactly one relationship in my life that was my match in terms of sexual energy.

I have too much sex drive for my partner. Since we have hammered out a truce (which I hope lasts) any excess sexual energy I have goes to me, myself & I and my sex toys. It's not optimal. Optimal for me would be more like what Tophat665 describes. But, it seems many of us are negotiating some kind of meeting in the middle.

My question to Leto and ralphie250 or anyone who would like to opine: What happened? You hooked up with these fine ladies. I'm assuming you we compatible on an intimate level. What changed?

 

If nymphomania was a disease, I would have exposed my old lady to it years ago.

 

This is so important. I'm not saying it doesn't matter if my SO finds me physically attractive, but it's more important that I "feel" attractive. When I don't, I'm less likely to be in the mood for sex. Of course, that can sometimes be overcome by consuming a couple of gin and tonics.

I think it's also important that you men let your women know they are desirable and not just when it comes time to have sex. Don't take it for granted that they should already know. Compliments go a long way.

 

Um, hi, are you me?

Just checking.