How do you know for sure you love your partner?

all love is conditional.

that being said i don't know whether i love my current SO or not. waaaay too soon to tell. i guess i'm still at part where i don't know how much i like this girl (it's getting to be quite a bit) and once i get to the love part i won't know what that love will look like. i need to work on knowing the feeling first before i can ponder whether it's genuine or not.

 

He never does.

 

I think everyones idea of love is different. If it were the same for everyone, wow, wouldnt life be more mundane than usual. Speaking from my own experiences, I will share this. My husband, thetemplar, makes me feel the butterflies and yes, there are times when I miss him so much that it does hurt. However, I think that is just a small part of what love is. When he's had a rough day, I want to be there to make it better. When something is bothering him, I want to be there to listen to him. WHen he worries about something, I worry about something. We dont talk in terms of "my stuff" "his stuff"...its in terms of "ours." We also make it a point to always have time for each other, no matter what each day brings for him at work and me at work. THe nights are ours for the taking. WHether its just being together, talking, sitting close, or other things. I would say the two biggest signs of being in love are 1) thinking of things in terms of "ours" not yours or mine and 2) always being open and honest with each other when something bothers us whether its good or bad.

 

I dont think you ever know, but you think you know when someone is gone perhaps - maybe thats the closest one can get.

But then love can mean such different things. In the moment I have loved maybe a dozen girls (as in feeling lust, intense affection, affinity, the desire to protect them or make them feel happy, etc) but I still carry around in my head some idea of perfect love or complete union. I dont think its real to be honest, or that it can exist in anything other than certain tiny moments.

 

Takes longer than a few weeks to break in a new pair of shoes. Surely love is a word in a list that includes words like comfortable and things like wiping away your loved ones tears when they are hurting, being supportive and supported with each other, about wanting to take their pain on your own shoulders because it hurts so much to see them hurting. Love is about giving someone the freedom to be themselves - knowing they wont be taking the piss. Love is the beginning of A Tale Of Two Cities - 'It was the best of times, it was the worst of times'. Love is mundane and love is all the great romantic poets rolled into one, with a symphomy in the background. Love is different to all, but the dream of it is shared.

 

I can't talk to my husband about everything, I'd want. It just wouldn't work. That's probably one reason, I'm congesting the internet.

We've stayed together, because it's not bad. Home, kids, everything familiar ties us together. I'm not independant, since I have no regular work. The temporary work, I have, I couldn't do with a family, if I didn't have hubby with the kids in the evenings.

My husband does a lot of things for us all though, he cares, but then again - it's his property.

We are not in any kind of crisis, but at times, I'm not sure I can or want to be with him for the rest of my life. Kids are in priority for us both, though.

"Don't make someone a priority, if they only make you an option." I should have better followed this advise, when I was younger. But you only get wiser, when you get older...

I'm not sure, whether I love him or the convenient life better.

 

Your clear-eyed candor is refreshing, Doris.
I can say, 'Me, too' to much of what you say.
We've agreed that we won't be together when I finally leave. I like the convenient life just fine but we are ill-matched, resulting in periodic blow outs that are very toxic. Both of us agree that we chose this partnership because the other was the polar opposite in all but the basic family values way.

 

Love is a verb...therefore without action love does not exist. Saying you love someone is meaningless unless it's accompanied by actions that come from your heart. If we don't love someone it's because we choose not to.

 

That's not what verb means. Love is an action, it can be done on its own.

 

It's own? You mean love is a person?

 

Love is a behavior as well as a feeling.
How do you behave when with him? Loving and prancy?

 

I think love is more the motivation behind the behavior rather than the behavior itself.

 

Hi chelle

How you doing? did Christmas go OK ... and did you spend some or all of it with him?
I hope you've had a good time and look forward to hearing how you've been doing.
Take care

 

^^^try the private messaging feature. It works great.

 

Don't you need a metrosexual guy with fake fangs to bite you in the neck and suck your blood out in order to convince you that he is in love with you?

 

Pleased to meet you, and welcome to the forum.
My present choice is intentional. If you stay to become more familiar with this place, you will begin to get the measure of members' posting styles.

 

You seem to be new here Team Jacob, but chelle is the OP of this thread so speaking to her directly isn't really here nor there. (chelle had a different user name when she started it.)

 

Why don't you leave the moderating to the staff there, kiddo? Surely a smart girl like you can figure out that Zen is perfectly within the rules.

 

I like this definition.

Also there are two forces pushing you... the love, that makes you act, when you already know someone since a long time. The other is the force of love, that will push you to get to know a new person better, when he/she is just new to you. I could also claim, these forces are the same thing, helping you to defeat the obstacles...

Fangirl: I clearly see, we are the opposites in many ways. It would just be nice to feel the harmony more often...

 

You are at your most beautifull when you see yourself reflected in the eyes of someone who loves you.