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Help...does this sound ok? Question about relationship

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by angela_c_82, Oct 9, 2015.

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  1. Chris Noyb

    Chris Noyb Get in, buckle up, hang on, & be quiet.

    Location:
    Large City, TX
    That comment makes me think you stick with ignoring him.
     
    Chris Noyb, Jan 9, 2016
    #101
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  2. Lindy

    Lindy Moderator Staff Member

    Location:
    Nebraska
    Well, you said 'nice to hear from you' which he could read as encouraging further attempts. You could have replied with something like saying that you wished him good health and happiness in the new year as well, but you are enjoying moving on.

    Saying 'nice to hear from you' definitely sends the wrong message to him, and to you as well.


    When you hear from him, or think about him, go stand in front of a mirror, look yourself in the eye and say to yourself 'Let go of it, this is not what you want, let go of it.'
     
    Lindy, Jan 9, 2016
    #102
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  3. redravin

    redravin Cynical Optimist Donor

    Location:
    North


    Agreed, if you felt you needed to respond a simple Happy New Year would have been best.
     
    redravin, Jan 9, 2016
    #103
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  4. angela_c_82

    angela_c_82 Vertical

    Lindy, do you think I still have my dignity by the way I left off this time even though u said it leaves the wrong message? I don't plan to continue nor begin any conversations with him at all. We are done and I'm healing working on me and looking for someone new.
    Thanks for honest opinion.
     
    angela_c_82, Jan 9, 2016
    #104
  5. SirLance

    SirLance Death Therapist

    Location:
    Where you least expect me

    I'm in this camp, from reading your posts it seems you second guess yourself a lot. Stop it, it's not healthy.

    Look at what you've accomplished just with this. Your judgement is trustworthy, so trust it. Drive your own car, make your own decisions, and if somebody doesn't like it, they can go fuck themselves.
     
    SirLance, Jan 11, 2016
    #105
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  6. Fraeia

    Fraeia Getting Tilted

    Location:
    Newfoundland

    It doesn't matter what message it sent and if you came off as dignified to him, because he doesn't matter, what he thinks doesn't matter, and that's the last message he should ever get from you. As hard as it may be, stop thinking about it and wondering if it was a good move. My advice? Go ahead and delete that thread of messages from your saved folder on the dating site (if it exists), and block him from contacting you again. You've done an amazing job ignoring him and moving on thus far, a little blip is no big deal, just wipe it clean girl.
     
    Fraeia, Jan 12, 2016
    #106
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  7. Lindy

    Lindy Moderator Staff Member

    Location:
    Nebraska
    He used you like a cheap rented accordion. You know that, you've admitted it in this thread.
    Being nice preserves some illusions that things were not as bad as they were. The best way to achieve dignity is to exit stage right, and not look longingly back over your shoulder.
     
    Lindy, Jan 12, 2016
    #107
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  8. redravin

    redravin Cynical Optimist Donor

    Location:
    North

    Unless you've set his car on fire.
     
    redravin, Jan 13, 2016
    #108
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  9. angela_c_82

    angela_c_82 Vertical

    Lmfao I've thought of popping tires. Omg the anger I get inside . lol jk
     
    angela_c_82, Jan 13, 2016
    #109
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